“I’m not saying everything’s okay. I’m still angry. I’m still mad. I am still hurt. It took a crisis, it took infidelity to get us off our asses and work for what we want. We do the best we can. That’s all we can do. What’s working for us [is] taking our time, moment to moment, day to day.”
-David Boreanaz’s wife, Jaime Bergman, to People on her husband’s infidelity.
Throughout all of these recent cheating scandals, most of the wives have been quiet about husband’s misdoings, so I have to say that I appreciate Jaime making a statement about where they are as a couple. With so much room for speculation, it’s nice that both members of a couple that are trying to work through infidelity have made public statements. Not only does it probably feel good for Jaime to get her side out there, but I feel a little bit better knowing that no one’s twisting her arm to make it work with him. It actually, in my opinion anyway, sheds a little bit of hope on the situation after hearing her side.
For the life of me I can’t understand how anyone could forgive a partner for being unfaithful. Love isn’t a variable. Mistakes can be forgiven, but to have sex with someone other than your spouse isn’t a mistake, it is a conscious and deliberate betrayal of the greatest and most precious expression of faith two people can declare to one another.
These people as of late are such fucking pigs.
i couldnt agree more!
What’s next, passing the collection plate? Thanks for the morality play Rev. McObvious.
He didn’t cheat because he made a mistake. He cheated because that is what he is. He will do it again. And again. He is sorry only when his deceit is discovered. In his mind, it is not wrong to deceive his wife and risk her health. I’m sure he didn’t say to her, “hey even though we’re married, I still want to fuck the occasional stray woman, probably without a condom, and possibly pass on STD’s to you. You down with that?” So, she’s participated in something she knew nothing about. He made a fool of her and treated her with contempt. Now apparently he’s convinced her that it had something to do with some deficit in their relationship. Nobody stopped him from talking about that deficit and trying to fix it before. She’s buying the bullshit b/c she loves him. Sooner or later
the bullshit will erode and far surpass any love she may have.
Let’s be real…87% chance they had/have an open marriage.
Your research seems complete, your statistics are inarguable, high positive predictive value. So, I believe that we have reached a consensus.