Drew Barrymore shared her thoughts on motherhood at Lucky’s Fashion and Beauty Blog Conference (yeah, because judging by that outfit, she definitely belongs there.) She said that she can’t do everything — run businesses (apparently she has her own line of wines and cosmetics), act, produce, and direct, all while being a mom. People has more:
It sucks when you’ve worked really hard for certain things and you have to give them up because you know that you’re going to miss out on your child’s upbringing, or you realize that your relationship has suffered.
I can’t direct right now because I would miss out on my daughter. It was heartbreaking to let it go, but it was a clear choice.
I was raised in that generation of women can have it all, and I don’t think you can. I think some things fall off the table. The good news is, what does stay on the table becomes much more in focus and much more important.
The work-at-home component is brilliant. I was doing all my business meetings between 12 and 2 because that’s when my daughter was napping, and it helped tremendously!
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I feel guilty all the time — but you combat it by being a superhero. When you go out there in the world you have to remember, ‘I’m doing the best I can, I’m doing it for them, and I’m going to be there for them too. I’m just going to figure out the balance.’
Hm. I guess it’s refreshing to hear that she doesn’t let 6 nannies raise her kids like some other celebrity moms are accused of doing. Not sure though why she has to completely give up directing. Not that it’s a huge loss.
Her wines look delicious. I thought she was a recovering alcoholic though. I guess I’m wrong about that.
I get why she’d say, “I think some things fall off the table.” Oh my gosh, poor little Gertie from E.T. WAS the object that fell off the table! I remember feeling sad for her when we were both younger… So yeah, she’s wrong, business women can be adequate parents, or better even, but she was pretty neglected by her ball bustin’ acting empire-of-a-family. Well THEY thought they were giving her the best I’m sure, but that turned into all night benders with Corey fuckin’ Feldman, eeeesh! And dancin’ on Dave Letterman’s desk, OK, that was kind of awesome… Lastly, I was wondering about her sobriety as well, but knowing she got serious with one of the dudes from The Strokes, I hiiiiiighly doubt she’s dry ifyaknowwhatimean… If she can stay in check though & enjoy a glass from time to time, then feck it, more power to her.
As much as feminists hate hearing this kind of shit, it’s pretty true. You can really see how society has degenerated since 90% of mothers are now working. No one is being raised anymore. TVs and public schools do not make good parents.
We need more stay-at-home dads.
Ive tried my best bonnakins baby!
Jesus, way to place all the responsibility of child rearing on mothers.
Since whales are supposed to be huge, isn’t a chubby whale basically an anorexic whale?
So it’s only the mother’s responsibility to raise the children? What about the dads? Why do you place the blame of “society’s failure” (whatever you think that is) on mothers? If working mothers and families were supported like they have to be (decent PAID maternity leave, state nurseries) then things would go a lot better. Look at Sweden or Norway. If both parents need to work in order to put food on the table and children do not get enough attention, do not blame the mother, blame the system. And you can’t see shit, today’s society is by all means better than 20 years ago. God you talk shit.
I love being a stay at home mom. My husband would fucking hate it, and he enjoys providing for his family. Personally, I would not want that responsibility, and I know plenty of women who feel the same. I know very few men who want to stay at home and cook and clean. Maybe men and women are different. Maybe our differences work together symbiotically. Maybe we should stop fucking with that.
Just my opinion. At the end of the day I think people should be able to do whatever they want.
her vice was coke not alcohol, some can socially drink and others have to go 100% sober to stay away from triggers. She seems to be able to stay away from drugs but can enjoy a good wine now and then. Most Dr. will say you have to go 100% sober but I think it is a personal decision what you can handle.
Nobody can go balls-to-the wall at work and still be able to do hard-core parenting. Thats just a fact, and no amount of howling about it or denying it will change it. Anyone who says otherwise either has no kids or isnt working/parenting as well as he or she would like to believe. Im surprised you would wonder why DB cant direct at all while she mothers. She would probably like to do it well, not fuck it up or outsource it. That requires months of 10-plus hour days before you ever get to shooting, and then all hours when you are shooting. It’s not a part-time job and it certainly isnt something you can half-ass with a minimum of $20 million of other people’s money on the line. I applaud DB for accepting reality and making her choice without delusions that one person can do everything.
P.S. DB has a baby. Dads can and do parent babies in a million important ways, but if think that a baby doesnt need Mom more than Dad, then you have not birthed a baby. Mom’s smell, voice, skin and warmth are something that cannot be replicated by Dad. Men and women are different and bring different strengths to bear at different times in different ways. A father is never going to be a mother, and vice versa. That is reality.
Hardcore parenting? Isn’t that illegal?
Everything you say down to your P.S. is spot on. It’s unfortunate that most families have to figure out how to make it with working more hours than they’d like, and farming out more of the childrearing to daycares than they want.
But your P.S… yeah, mom’s and dad’s parent differently. My husband and I definitely play off each others strengths because of that, but he was a stay at home dad from the time our older kid was born until he was 3, and he stayed home with our daughter while she was 2, and we all benefited from it SO much. My kids didn’t need me more, we were just lucky that one of us could stay home when they were little; gender didn’t make it any less beneficial.
A quick shout out to Chaz for being a stay at home dad!
I haven’t been a full-time stay at home dad, just adjusted my schedule so I could be around. Ty though!
Why would anyone want to rely on, or look to “the system” for support, values, etc. etc.?
Maybe if western civilization didn’t value possessions over people both parents wouldn’t have to work, at least not both full-time………..putting food on the table and covering the bills would be easier if people weren’t preoccupied with all the other “fixin’s”………SUVs, big houses, Target, anything/everything made in China…but each person, family, chooses their priorities and if maintaining stuff ranks highly important than, yes, both will have to work—a lot—and children, family will suffer, to varying degrees.
Well said.
Can I just say that I find her outfit highly unflattering? I feel like I’m interrupting but ehh… The pants or the top needs to go.
Agreed.
Not looking good in that outfit. And puleeze with the mommy guilt. I understand– her own mom sucked so she’s flailing around to figure out how she’s supposed to be. A word of advice Drew: be you but attentive to your kid. No more, no less. And PS: drinking can become a problem among moms of young kids. Just sayin’
Didn’t she go to some kind of “Bikini Boot-Camp” in Mexico awhile back with Diaz and Reese? Can you get court-martialled for epic failure of duty?
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