James McAvoy may have some intimacy issues that need addressing, as I’ve never heard anyone describe (consensual) sex as “a nightmare”. However, that’s exactly what he called it when asked how he feels about having to strip down and perform on camera for any of his film roles.
From Metro:
‘I mean, sex is a nightmare in real life until you meet the person you click with. When you’re pretending, multiply that anxiety by a thousand,’ said the 33-year-old.
‘You wake up in the morning and you’re like, “Oh no, I’ve got a spot on my bum,” or you’re in the middle of a scene and you’re like, “Oh no, is my breath weird?” or, “Oh, no. She’s nice but does she think I’m trying to cop a feel? But I’m really not, I’m just trying to do my job.”
James is married and has two kids, so presumably he’s over that phase, but I’m about to let my inner prude shine when I say… why would you have sex with someone you DIDN’T click with? I guess that’s what young people do, but since I never went through that phase, I just don’t get it. It’s only awkward – or “a nightmare” – if you put yourself into a situation that you know you don’t want to and shouldn’t be in, anyway.
As for having to have fake sex in front of cast and crew members… forget it. That IS my idea of a nightmare. I think if I was ever an actress, I’d have to have my agent filter out any scripts that were above PG-13.
LOL, this totally made me laugh out loud at my desk, not the story but Jennifer’s comment about not relating to the quote. Sadly, and I say this half chuckling and laughing at myself, my single years did include a few one night stands or hook ups where things were just awkward. Sometimes you don’t click sexually and the end result is usually pretty awful for both people, sometimes only one, and for me are some of the funniest ‘single-dom’ stories I have. Definitely not funny when I was single and going through them, but now being in a committed and healthy relationship I can look back and laugh at myself and those situations. And yes, nightmare can really be the right word!
^This.
When I was single I definitely clicked emotionally with a couple of people that I would never ever want to have sex with again.
For me it got to the point where I’d spend the last 30 minutes of a date wondering things like “Ok, he’s great but… could he really take off my tights without ripping them? Is he leave-the-bar-before-last-call-worthy? yeah well, he seems like he is… but… am I sure I have enough time to take a shower before class tomorrow morning? his mini pizza was great, though… maybe if we make out a little I can still taste it…”. Cause I’m gross.
I wouldn’t qualify it as a nightmare, but yes, it’s better if you click with someone.