“I would love to say that it had something to do with my work, but it doesn’t. … I have a boyfriend, and if I’m being completely honest, no one likes to be not toned when you are dating someone. I tone whenever I want, and I chose to now because my boyfriend and I are both really into it. But we don’t work out together. We did that once and I didn’t like huffing and puffing. I didn’t like looking all red and gross, so I don’t do that.”
Kelly Clarkson on her recent twenty-pound weight loss, attributing it to her boyfriend‘s presence in her life. And I don’t think I really like this. I mean, what happened to Miss Independent? Why lose the weight for someone else if you don’t even want to do it for yourself? I think the world has a big problem with people who are overweight, and I don’t even really know why. It just doesn’t even make any sense. Just playing the Devil’s Advocate for a second, here, what if Kelly Clarkson (or another celebrity, whatever) doesn’t care about being a few, or ten, or even forty pounds overweight? What if they’re completely comfortable enough in their skin that the excess weight just doesn’t bother them? I mean, why does the weight of another person seriously bother someone so much that they have to go on and be haters?
If Kelly wants to lose any extra weight she’s carrying, she should do it because she wants to, and not because she’s in a relationship. This guy started dating her when she had those extra pounds she’s talking about, and I’m sure he was just as attracted to her then. If he wasn’t—or isn’t? Well. F-ck him is all I can say. F-CK HIM.
As long as he’s not pressuring her to lose the weight and she wants to do it. Doesn’t matter if it’s for him or herself, if it’s her choice, then I think that’s fine. Especially when she looks so fit and healthy. Love Kelly Clarkson!
I’m betting the guy has nothing to do with this. How many woman are guilty of dieting and excercising to look hotter for the guy they’re sleeping with?
I compare it to shaving my legs. If I’m not dating someone, I’ll go a week (or longer) sometimes without shaving my legs, but if I have a boyfriend, I make sure to do it every day. If you’re going to be intimate with someone, you want to feel confident and sexy. If losing a few pounds is what does that for her, then good for her.
Besides, if she was able to lose 20lbs and still not look ridiculously skinny, it was probably in her best interest to lose the weight anyhow. You can sit there and say “She should feel good at any weight”, but come on, don’t be stupid, you KNOW you feel better when you look better (and you feel better because you’re healthier too).
If the sex is hotter when you’re thinner (and more confident) then why wouldn’t you use that as a motivation? Umm, I can’t think of any other motivation other than health that would be more rewarding than that.
In my case, my boyfriend has gotten really into the gym since we started dating, and is looking awesome(er). He would never tell me to lose weight, but I have to admit that his successes have motivated me. Not only does it look fun to reach goals, but if he’s doing all this work then I don’t want to let the team down!
I think you’re talking too much shit here Sarah. Yes, it does suck that society has fucked up views of what beauty is, but let her choose when she wants to be fat and when she wants to be thinner! I don’t think it has anything to do with the guy. If having a bf gave her motivation to get into shape, then good for her! Go Kelly! :)
I get what you’re saying, girl, and I agree—if she wants to be in shape and now she has the motivation to do it, super.
My question, however, is “why does the world have such a problem with excess weight?” Who cares if someone is “fat” or wants to be “fat”? Why does that make them gross or lazy? I know plenty of super-skinny people who are just as lazy as some of the “fat” people out there, and no one says, “Oh, we don’t detest FAT, we hate LAZY”? You just don’t hear that.
on point, sarah.
She still has quite a few pounds to drop, in my opinion. Who is her boyfriend anyway? Maybe he’s a little chubster, too, and they’re losing weight TOGETHER (sniff, sniff, how romantic!) Everybody needs to watch “The Weight of the Nation.” You’ll see what a health hazard being really fat is and what it’s costing all of us financially, too!
Don’t think it’s the being fat part that’s the hazard – more like that stuff they try to sell you as food. If they would let you buy good food, food that’s not been enhanced and tampered with maybe there wouldn’t be such a problem with weight.
Blah is right on with this one. Let’s face it, we feel sexier when we’re at the cultural norm (most of us!). I love how honest she is! She let herself go at other times, and it’s nice to know that her reason for changing now is that she wants foxy sex with her man (rather than changing for the public or whatever).
She’s lesbian, get over it…
Sarah, as someone who has two very overweight parents who are currently plagued with a litany of health problems to include diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure (just to name a few), I’d say there’s a LOT wrong with being ok with someone getting fat.
I’m not discriminating, it’s a matter of health. Americans are (in general) a bunch of fat asses. We eat like shit, don’t exercise enough and are constantly popping a pill for one problem or another as a result of our unhealthy lifestyles. I’m not saying anyone should ever be mocked or ridiculed because of weight; not at all. However, the weight in America is a serious issue. Even being 20lbs overweight has been shown to have serious affects on your overall quality of life. I lost only five pounds and noticed that my joints didn’t hurt as much. So yes, in the grand scheme of things, it is a problem.
You’re implying that everyone who is fat eats unhealthily and doesn’t exercise, and that everyone who is fat has a lower quality of life, which is kind of offensive. There are tons and tons of fat people who go to the gym all the time and who have insanely healthy diets, and they’re still fat. That’s just the way their bodies are. And contrary to popular belief, there are fat people who are genuinely happy and confident. There are fat people who don’t despise what they see in the mirror.
I’m fat, and I don’t have any health problems. My heart has been checked, and it’s doing great. I’ve never had any problems with my blood pressure or cholesterol or diabetes or any of the other fatty problems. I don’t feel weak, and I don’t have any unidentified aches, and even if I did, there’s always the possibility that health problems aren’t always solved by losing weight. I feel really good about everything in my life, including my big ol’ fat ass, and I don’t feel like I’d magically have a better life if I was thinner.
All that being said, if I did have all these health problems, it still wouldn’t be anyone’s business, which is what Sarah is saying, and which I totally agree with. If I want to sit on the couch all day and eat ice cream and candy and never ever move, and if I have a heart attack and develop diabetes and shovel ice cream in my mouth in my hospital bed, then that’s my business.
When you see a fat person on the street, you have no idea why they’re fat. Maybe they do eat all the time. Maybe it’s just their particular genes. Maybe it’s the result of some medication. It could be any number of things. When you see fat people and write them off as “a bunch of fat asses,” then yes, you are discriminating.
YES. THIS! ^^
You’re right, you absolutely have the right to live your life anyway you want. However, the obesity epidemic is driving up health care costs and lowering life expectancy more than anything else in this country. While YOU might be the one shining exclusion, 99% of the people do not fall into your situation. To think that that comment was directed at you specifically and not society as a whole (which is obvs what I was talking about) is a little ridiculous. And sorry, no there aren’t TONS and TONS of obese people who eat healthy and work out. I’m sorry, but there simply isn’t.