Well, this is sad. You know that interview that Rihanna did with Oprah? Sarah showed you a few quotes about Chris Brown last week, about how after the assault she felt like she lost her best friend, and how she felt protective of him after the incident. It was a little unsettling, I thought, but the interview itself aired last night, and I’ve got tons more unsettling quotes for you.
On the state of her relationship with Chris Brown: “We’re very, very close friends. We built a trust again and that’s it. We love each other and we probably always will.”
On hanging out with Chris: “It’s awkward because I still love him…my stomach drops and I have to maintain this poker face and not let it get to the outer part of me. I have to maintain that and suppress it.”
More on Chris: “I think he was the love of my life. He was my first love and I see that he loved me the same way…I truly love him—the main thing for me is he’s at peace. I’m not at peace if he’s not happy or he’s still lonely. I care. It actually matters that he finds that peace.”
On the aftermath of the assault: “All kinds of emotions started happening after that,” she said. “All kinds of things started making sense. I thought I hated Chris and I realized it was love that was tarnished. It looked like hate because it was ugly, it was angry, it was inflamed, it was tainted and I realized that what it was is, I have to forgive him, because I cared about him still. And the minute I let go of that, I started living again.”
Can someone tell Katy Perry to take a quick break from banging John Mayer to have a serious talk with her BFF? Because this just doesn’t sound good at all. I really don’t think that the love of your life could ever do to you what Chris Brown did to Rihanna, and it’s incredibly sad to me that she doesn’t get that.
“and I realized that what it was is”
Yeouch, that hurt to read.
I guess what they had was passion of a very extreme and volatile kind (hot hate sex, all that). It’s like a drug. So very very addictive and not healthy in the long run. And so easy to mistake for love.
But is it still love of a kind? And the question is: can an abuser ever really change? Are there any real statistics for that?
This girl is so fucking pathetic it is laughable.
Abusers are excellent at making their victims believe they can’t live without them, that what they have is true love, and that they should always be forgiven. Fame isn’t an antidote to domestic violence, and I think Rihanna speaks like someone who is knee-deep in an abusive relationship.
Agreed. I wrote on this sight a few days ago that I felt like some of the writers on this sight are awfully rough on Rihanna considering that she probably has pretty terrible trauma from that relationship. Just because she’s in the public eye doesn’t mean she’s immune to the issues that typically effect abuse victims. Cut her some damn slack.
Yes. Look, she’s no role model, and we need to tell young women vocally and often that they should stay very clear of her example. But she’s a victim, and she’s a very public illustration of the way lots of DV victims think. Women like her aren’t idiots; their thought process isn’t “he’s a horrible nasty creep who will inevitably treat me the same way or worse if he gets the chance, and hey, that sounds fun!” It’s more like “I love him so much that it’s worth it anyway/I need him so much that ditto/he’s changed/I’ve changed/he can’t help it so he’s a victim too/great love and romance is always rocky/I’d rather be beaten than be alone/he needs me and I can fix him.”
Pathetic? Maybe. But she’s not remotely unique in this, and while we must be careful not to legitimize her choices or romanticize her life, demeaning her is a dick move.
Girlfriend needs to go to therapy and STFU up about this.
Yeah, that too.
i so agree with you on this one..she’s also human you know!!she’s not the first person to encounter this kinda problem so liv her alone and get a life u pretenders!!!!!
Rihanna should be banned to think and should use only her mouth for singing and shit.
As bad as it sounds, i understand what she is comin from. But to say the love of your life is a dam beater is dam stupid. She’s lost, you can tell. For her to try and sugar caot that she she must have took part in him. She may be a victim of licks but I feel like she may have took part in all that went down. it’s 2 sides to every story.