The Intimacy Experiment Day Seven: It’s Just a Sweet, Sweet Fantasy Baby

Great. Just great.

Another totally crap song from my earlier years that will be stuck in my head ’til I get the NEXT totally crap song from my earlier years stuck in my head.

I’m on the home stretch of the the K-Y Intimacy Experiment, hitting up day seven out of ten, which centers around the idea of no relational limitations today by developing a ‘love map.’

What’s a ‘love map,’ you ask? Why, I’ll tell you. According to Dr. John Money of Johns Hopkins University, who coined the term back in 1980, the ‘love map’ refers to the ‘sexual template expressed in every individual’s erotic fantasies and practices.’ In short? HOO-daddy, SEXUAL FANTASIES.

This ‘love map’ tells of your base desires that trigger an erotic, physical response and validates where our turn-ons (and offs) come from.

We were to journal, and discuss, those things that turned us on, even if it was unexplainable. We sat down, took out a pen and paper, and both went at it, starting with previous sexual encounters that we’d experienced together, and then with other partners. (What, you’re going to judge me because boyfriend’s not the only one that I’ve slept with? It’s not 1942 you know.) I thought I’d be uncomfortable discussing my previous sexual endeavors with my, you know, husband, and equally uncomfortable hearing about his, but guys? I wasn’t. I guess if I’m talking about myself, there’s not much I CAN be uncomfortable about, since it’s kind of one of my favorite past-times.

I digress. (See? I get all carried away, talking about myself, and we’re totally off topic. You can imagine where this afternoon’s conversation between my husband and I ended up, badum-ching.)

After making our lists, in private, we were to review them on our own. We determined whether or not the noted experience still turned us on (um, yes) and if there were any that we now regretted, in the light of day (hardly). We hooked up a little later after our reflections and shared and compared. It turned out that we had a lot of similar experiences outside of our relationship, and shared a lot of turn-ons that had occurred within our relationship, too.

We were going to then separate and do a list of turn-offs, only to reconvene later, but after sharing our lists, we took a little afternoon siesta and THAT. Is all I will say about that, thankyouverymuch.

Day Seven? Total win, and thank you to K-Y for giving us such great ideas to begin stirring up old ideas.

You guys can check out the other bloggers that are participating in the experiment over at K-Y’s Facebook page, Couples Place, and also check out The Bachelorette‘s Trista and Ryan‘s page to find out how they’re dealing.

DON’T FORGET – you have a few days left to enter for your own kit, which will include the experiments that I’ve undergone and documented here, and some that were too hot to talk about in such a public forum (OK, not too hot to talk about, but sponsors don’t want this turning into a complete porn site, believe it or not). Leave your name and website in the comments and tune in after February 14th to find out if you’ve won (I mean, I’ll contact you by email one way or the other, but come on. IT’S FUN).

I wrote this posting while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y^® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review. In addition, K-Y^® Brand sent me a gift card to thank me for taking the time to participate.