Okay, Let’s Talk Valentine’s Day

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• Hey Beet-
  My husband of 5 years and I were introduced by a creepy guy that used to stalk me. So don’t count out a whole group of guys just because they have a scary stalker friend. Good luck to ya!

  • you can try [Love Wealthy com]. I met my love there. Many celebrities, pro athletes and wealthy singles are there

• Beet,

  Me and my bf have been together for 2 years now (I’m not sure if you could that one as a long term one) and the way I met him was through my university. We happened to go to some classes together, so one day due to having to deal with our studies together we started chatting up more often and a few months later – it all began. Now, a couple of years later we are even happier than then. I love him so much more and although I’ve always thought it wasn’t possible for my love to keep growing because it was already enormous – it just keeps expanding! There is only one way to achieve it – be yourself and don’t forget to make compromises because all of us have our bad days.

• Beet you should post a link to the website Lacy got it from— either http://www.mikeink.com/ or http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=14548455 (myspace awards center). That guy is so funny.

  Oh, and to answer your question… my boyfriend is a bartender. I adore him, but would NOT recommend it. Regardless of the guy, having a bunch of drunk chicks hit on your BF every time he goes to work is f*cking stupid.

  I actually have had some friends that have liked match.com or whatever. I usually just meet people through my friends. You could try volunteering somewhere… or something.

  Good luck!

• Hey =)

  My husband dated my best friend for a time, and then I moved flat and he lived right by me, we started hanging out, and then started seeing eachother, been together 7 years now.

  Second hand guys can be quite awesome, as long as the friend in question is all for it, as mine thankfully was.

  • My boyfriend, who I love dearly, is a “second hand” guy, too. He grew up with my best friend and they had a period of time when they were “hooking up,” but it was never a “relationship.” Well, we met once when I went to visit her (we went to college together, but our homes were in different states), and definitely hit it off. We kept in touch online (he moved away), but it turns out he ended up moving to where I live (not because I was there, it was a work thing). Anywayyyy…we’re officially in a relationship now and it’s great. My friend was a little weirded out by it in the beginning, but things are good now.

    Basically, I guess I’m saying not to rule anyone you meet out, and don’t give up on a person just because the circumstances aren’t “ideal.”

    Best of luck to ya, Beet!

• hey beet :]
  i’m single too, but all the greatest couples i know (at least five of them, all married for years and most with kids) met doing theatre work. you can get so close with the cast and crew of a show, and in a city’s theatre community you can both meet new people all the time and run into the same ones over and over. see if there’s a community theatre you might want to get involved in.
  good luck with whatever you try!

  • So true! The majority of the guys I have been with (including the one I am currently with) I met through various community theatres, as well as school productions. Even if you don’t want to be on stage, there are so many aspects to putting on productions, and companies are always looking for people to help in all areas.

• here’s a hot tip…words that don’t really sound too nice unless you know the situation: “i met him at work. he was my boss”.

  seriously, and unfortunately, the best guys come along when you least expect it. actively looking for love has only just gotten me a lot of one-night-stand kinda sex…

• My fiancee and I met over nexopia, lol. Four years strong this August!

• happy ‘V’ …… ‘B’ .

  X :)

• don’t worry beet
  im 17, and my only hook-ups since kinder have been all after nights of excessive drinking
  and kinder doesn’t count
  totally get where you’re coming from
  except, im not exactly going for the massive long term thing
  but you get the idea

• I met him at a video game store and then a few days later I invited him to a Cinderella school play at some high school. Then I asked him out in the car.

  I’m the man in the relationship, haha.

• I met my 2 yr. bf in one of my college classes. He was the guy who leaned back in his chair and fell once every class. Find imperfections that you find endearing (or could live with, at least). Looking for a ‘perfect’ guy isn’t going to work. We’ve lived together the whole time we’ve been dating too, and I still feel excited when I come home to him.
  Happy Valentines, Beet and girls! Love who you’ve got this year – even if it is just Leo.

• I live by this:
  If you’re trying or expecting something, it won’t happen. When it comes to love, anyway.
  But I’m a pessimist.

• my boyfriend actually took me out to Broadway tonight for our anniversary/valentines day! It was amazing :D We met through friends….we actually went to the same high school and were in a bunch of classes together but never really noticed each other…then summer after graduation I had just gotten out of a really bad relationship, and he was hanging out with my friends cause he knew like 2 of them, and he was really sweet and was a shoulder to cry on and then about a month later we started dating and it’s been amazing ever since.

• I saw a cute guy that I knew from school out at a bar and I approached him and told him he went to my school. then i insisted he drive me and my (male) friend home because our ride was super-annoying. don’t be shy beet!q

• Hi Beet,
  I’m single too and 29 for one more precious week! I’m a career gal, and have lost several relationships due to the fact that I needed to “make my own way”. I just joined eHarmony, and I feel like men are out there, and they’re ready….like overly ready where they might propose to you on the first date. I have a date next week that I’m really looking forward too. Even if it doesn’t work out with any of these stallions it’s comforting to know that there are still plenty of single, desirable, smart men out there. I say give it a try.

• When did you and your last boyfriend break up? I have been single since March of 2006, just wondering if we’re in the same boat.

• I met my boyfriend when I’d least expected it. I was 17 and had already given up on love (I know, very melodramatic).
  Then there was this party. I really didn’t wanna go. And I mean REALLY didn’t wanna. None of my girlfriends we’re there and 3 of my ex’es were (none of who i particularly wanted to see again).

  But I was soooo happy I went. I met my boyfriend. Best boyfriend in the world. It’s been over 4 years since that party and we’re still together and very happy.

  So you know, it happens when it happens, and not when you think it should.

• I met my boyfriend at a school specifically built for bad kids. We smoked weed (open campus lunch ;), partied at classmates house’s, and ditched in each others classes. I had the biggest crush on him the moment I met him. He was my best friend @ that school and always took care of me. I caught up on my credits and graduated and he and I went our separate ways, being we were both stuck in our fucked up relationships. Anyway three years later we give us a chance and WOW! It’s amazing how I just always knew we were meant to be. My advice is find someone who you can never lie to, someone who you trust, and also make sure that someone is genuine. He cared for me so much as just a friend first which really allowed me to open my heart to him once i went through life and learned some of it’s hard lessons.

• My current was my best friend for two years. It’s two years as a couple this coming April. He was just under my nose for a very long time before I realized he was perfect for me.

• I met my husband at my first job (his too) at a fast food place (I was 17 years old). We really didn’t like each other much. However, we had a mutual friend… so we saw each other every so often.

  Two years later… I moved away to a nearby town and he and I just started doing more and more things together. Our mutual friend didn’t like the fact that she was no longer the center of attention and took off… I was not heartbroken.

  We spent quite a few years fine-tuning our wonderful life. Although we were just recently married last October (it was finally an option for us here in California), in April we will have been together 22 years!

  Moral of the story:
  I didn’t know when we first met that he was the one… I don’t think that it’s something that you can know. Just allowing myself to be open, and frankly civil, around someone that I don’t think really cared for me at the time lead to the most wonderful life!!!

  Happy Valentines Day to my love Paul… and everyone at The Beet!

• hey, beet. I hope you feel better soonly!

  I actually met my husband in AA. I was a self-conscious wreck, in the midst of a painful divorce, and he would merely talk to me on the smoke breaks. I wasn’t even in a place to look for, give, or receive romantic love. it kinda snuck up on me. we became great friends and fell maaaaadly in love. despite all of the lunacy of that time, I honestly don’t think my life could have possibly turned out better.

  so don’t fret. it can happen when you least expect it and in the oddest of circumstances.

• Anime convention.

• You have to rely on fate to bring you to that one. It will happen in the most unexpected way.

  I met my husband at a family BBQ. I had once seen him in my 11th grade classroom and thought he was gorgeous, but then he disappeare

• I moved into a share house and met a gorgeous guy who just happened to be the brother of a girl I knew in highschool in another state, he and I had even briefly attended the same university seven years previously. We are celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks. The thing was, when I met him in the share house I knew he was the one and I was pissed because I had spent a long time enjoying being single and getting over having my heart seriously broken by a weirdo. He says he knew the same thing, he just looked at me and saw marriage and babies and a future. I don’t believe in love at first sight but it happened. Man is it hard work to stay in love. That’s the tough bit.

• I just gotta say that I love reading all of these stories!
  I met my boyfriend my freshman year of high school through mutual friends and activities. He had a bit of a stutter and some fashion issues but I thought he was gorgeous and he ended up asking me to our Homecoming dance. 6 years later and I am still head over heels for him!
  I would just say from my own experience and my friends’ experiences that you NEVER know when someone is going to completely sweep you off your feet so be patient.

• I met my current (and only) husband when I was 32 … I spent a long time alone (not searching, just alone) and he spent his time bouncing from one relationship to another. I met him through a mutual friend at a party. There were an assload of obstacles but people met through people are usually cool.

• Hi Beet! I know you’ve been single for awhile and you think that’s a bad thing BUT! look how wonderful your life has become. (Please don’t think I am assuming anything. I just noticed the whole vegan thing, and you talking about how good it makes you feel. Your adorable dog. The Beet kicking ass AND you did that awesome run earlier. MAJOR kudos.)

  I met my last boyfriend (though he’s gay so I don’t know if you can apply this same system) through one of my female friends. It seems there’s a sort of connection through people like that. I know a couple of my straight friends enjoy the fact that as a gay man I have a lot of female friends. I would say the best way is to meet someone through a friend… that way you avoid all those douchebags on eharmony and the awkwardness of blind dates!

  Good luck in your efforts Beet 8)

• I met my loverboy at a party I held, great way to meet new people, to ask your friends to bring single-goodlooking-decent and nice men to the party. Cause you can alwasy trust your friends (almost). Anyway, back to loverboy, well we got introduced and later that night we had wild wild sex. And then we kept in touch and now we’re going on 5 months ;)

• My fiance actually got me out of an abusive relationship. He was close friends with my ex-boyfriend… saw him get physical with me first hand one day, and swept me off my feet shortly after. We’ve been together coming up on 7 years since. Falling in love with a friend you already know you can trust = wonderful, if possible :)

• I totally disagree with the quotes above about “you will find love when you least expect it”.. I believe that you can find love WHERE you least expect it, but I was single for about 4 years and it wasn’t until I started looking for love that I found it. I always had guys hitting on me when I went out and had my share of steamy hookups, but that’s all they were. I was either in the friend zone or in the booty call zone and that really pissed me off. Every guy at school I just became friends with and I was really looking for that spark. I decided after a while to try to the online dating thing (as scary as that sounded!!) I had only heard horror stories but i was determined to weed through the sketchy and sex only ones (and ohhh were there lots of them!) and try to find someone in the same situation as me. I joined plenty of fish, which is a free dating site where anyone can post a profile and you can chat and browse as many as you like… Beet seriously check it out, you don’t even need a membership to browse the profiles. Anyway, long story short, afer about 5 or so unsuccessful dates and I was about to give up, my (now) boyfriend Matt sent me a message. We talked online foreverrrrr because I was so skeptical and then finally decided to meet by going for a walk by the river. It was the perfect date because there was no expectations, we just talked and got to know each other without the pressure of sitting in an expensive restaurant and feeling the time constraints. We had chemistry right away and talked about everything from our work/school, to the city we had both by chance ended up in. We took it slow after that, not having huge expctations because i had been hurt before but just seeing where things went. After about a month we both realized we were head over heels for each other, and have been inseperable since. I can honestly say I have found the man of my dreams. I always thought the online thing was weird, but I’m SO glad I waited it out and saw where things went before making quick judgements.

  I hope you find love Beet, you deserve it! Happy Valentines Day. :)

• oh, and we’ve been dating for over a year now… I re-read my post and I sound puppy love struck.. hehe

• Been with my boy 2 years now, met on myspace through a mutual “real life” friend, couldn’t be happier :)

• Hey Sasha,

  My wife and I met 3 years ago on myspace, of all places. We each already had a child from a previous relationship, and had GIVEN UP on finding love. She landed on my page through an unknown mutual friend. I had covered my entire page with my undying love for my son, my taste in music, and life, as well as a straightforward bio about who I am and where I stood. She read it, sent me a friend request, and a year later, became my wife.

  I don’t know if I would recommend that avenue to someone with your current following (as there may be some unsavory folk in there), but I would however, highly suggest that in whatever pursuit you choose, make sure they meet, then know, then love the REAL Sasha Pasulka. My wife and I met each other with the most baggage possible, and to this day, I’d have her no other way. She brought me a daughter!!!

  Best of luck. You definitely deserve it!

  -Hans

• hey beet! i met my bf 6 years ago, back at the time when i felt i was a total loser. i was 17 back then. we met at mirc, in one of those harry potter discussion channels. we were both potterheads, but eventually we ‘moved out’ of that place and became regular users of IM.
  since both of us were too poor to get to each other (he’s from MO, i’m from somewhere in asia), we’re still yet to be physically together. :( i guess that’s a more difficult situation, beet. it’s like introducing you to your one true love, but the powers-that-be snatches your love away and tells you “you can’t have him yet!” :(

  we all wish you well, beet! keep us posted on your lovesearching. :D

• I’m 24 and as of today (although we don’t celebrate it) my boyfriend and I have been together 9 years. We met when we were in high school, but our high schools were 13 hours apart. We met online back before there were dating websites – we just clicked “random” on ICQ enough until one day we starting talking. I know it’s not an easy fix and you can’t take that story and transform your life with it, but I think it can been seen as an encouraging tale, maybe the next new person you talk to will be it.

  Also, the internet is a really interesting way to fall in love with someone. Now I think it’s mostly big business right? It is kind of romantic though: at first you have to win a person over with your words on a page.

• Morning, B!
  I met my husband of 2 years on Match.com- no lie. I was single, late 30’s, bored, no prospects, ready to embrace the life of a crazy cat lady, and one night at 2 am, decided to go “windows shopping.” I saw his picture and decided he had the kindest face I’d ever seen. Turns out, he had just that week, decided to give Match a whirl. Both of our profiles were down within a week of meeting.
  Don’t fear modern technology- just be picky. He wasn’t my first cyber-date- there were other who were notable for their wrongness- learning experiences.
  Love,
  Ging in Boston

• Instead of love how about anonymous public washroom sex?

  Met my wife at work. I really wasn’t interested in a new relationship (long sad story) but it found me anyways. Been living common-law for 18 years now with 2 kids.

• I was 24 years old and hadn’t even held hands with a guy, let alone go on a first date.

  I had worked with this guy at Target for a month or two, cashiering together. We hit it off and got alone. He left abrupbtly (read: was fired for bullshit reasons). About a month later, he came into the store and gave me his business card, telling me to call him so we could have lunch.

  This was, I believe, the end of May. I finally got the courage to message him on Myspace. He then called me. We went on our first date on June 23 and have been together for over six months.

  So, yes, you do find love when and where you least expect it. I mean, the Target uniform of red and khaki is, perhaps, the world’s least unflattering, and somehow we still clicked. Also, you may have to let go of some “I will never date someone who..” scenarios, such as “I will never date someome who has kids.” My boyfriend is a divorced, single dad with two kids. At first I was hesitant, but I soon realized that sometimes you have to rearrange your “I will never date someone who…” list and just go with the flow.

  I apologize for the wordiness and babbling. I tend to do that. Good luck with everything, and don’t worry. You will 100% definitely find someone who is perfect for you.

• My boyfriend/life partner and i have been together for about five years, no drama, total trust and respect, and we have two kids now. We met when I was not looking for anything and he helped my tenants move their stuff in. After talking to him for about an hour it was amazingly clear that we were right for each other. I was really shocked at how easily it came after having years of trying to force relationships to work because i “loved him” or whatever. So i think that when it’s time it just shows up whether you want it or not. good luck :)

• My husband and I met in High school. Our cliques had the common denominator of my sister. Anyway, he asked me out and I was expecting some kind of Carrie-esq prank, but no! He was serious. Fool. So, together 11 years, 5 of those married. We have one daughter, and another on the way. So maybe you ought to try to meet your love in High school. Though honestly, you may be arrested for that at this point.

  • Hahha =D

    I suppose one could always temp though, maybe there are some cute single teachers or parents?

• Um, I’m almost 34 and I do not have anyone. Maybe I should try to meet guys like you are doing. It’s worth a shot. I have yet to celebrate a Valentine’s day with an actual guy. Kind of felt good to get that out there… Good luck!

• My boyfriend and I have been together 7 years. We met through a friend of his, of whom I was friends with.

  I just recommend hanging out with the “boys” but not trying to be “one” of them :)

• I was buying my ex husband a meal at a take-out restaurant after he had knee surgery. The counter guy asked what I wanted for sides, and couldn’t believe when I quipped that I wasn’t really sure since it was for my ex and that I supposed he should just be glad for what he got. He was amazed that someone would do that for an ex and we chatted a bit, but I was smitten by a pair of gorgeous blue eyes and looked forward to going back some time.

  However, the next morning at work I ran into him! It turned out the restaurant was a 2nd job to pay for his daughter’s tuition and that we work for the same system.

  Three years later we are ridiculously happy. We spoil and take care of each other and are very happy to have found each other. I’m so glad I took the chance to talk to a gorgeous set of blue eyes over a take-out counter—- after having been on my own for 3 years. It’ll happen, girl. It’ll happen!

• My husband and I will have been married for five years at the end of this May, and are expecting our first child. We met on the internet – but not in the normal, Match.com kind of way. We were both members of a geeky fansite for a certain fantasy author, and knew each other on that messageboard for a couple of years before we started talking via AIM. We hit it off in a big way, but there was a snag – he was in the US and I was in the UK. I made plans to go and visit him in the US to see if it was as good in person as online, and, by the time I got out there, we knew that we wanted to get married if neither of us thought the other smelled funny or something.

  It was a glorious week, followed by months of heartache at being thousands of miles apart, as we arranged for his visa and shipping all his stuff to England. He arrived in the winter and we got married about ten months after my visit. Things have only got better since then.

  Neither of us was looking for love. I was a shy 21 year old who had never even kissed anyone and he was just out of a bitter break-up. But here we are, and I don’t think anything will separate us now.

  Good luck, Beet. Love will find a way! I’ll pray for you.

• Hmmm… wonder if this is the longest? My husband and I have been married for 19 years. We met in a bar :D He was the “friend of a friend” visiting from out of town and seemed nice. He and my friend were going to a party the next night, but my friend had to wait until he got off work at 10, so he asked if I wanted to go grab some Chinese first and then go to pick up my friend and then to the party. We went to dinner and ended up talking until they kicked us out at closing time… and that’s when we realized we had totally forgotten to go pick up our friend. I remember going to the party, but I seriously don’t think we even talked to anyone there except each other. We got engaged two weeks later and married two weeks after that, and our families had a big conniption fit and said “It’ll never last! Don’t you come running home in six months when it’s over!” :D Okay, Mom, I won’t :D

• When I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend or dating anyone, on an April’s Fool Day at work, I got some flowers, I answered the door door, there was some roses for me, I said “Is this an April Fool’s joke”. I tried to call and see who sent the flowers, but they wouldn’t tell me. The next day I got some more flowers and the note said, “No this is not an April Fool’s joke”. Well to find out it was a guy I had known for 2 years (working together) who sent the flowers. I had always thought he was cute, but he had a fiancee at the time, but broke up right before we got together. We dated for 3 months and have been married 9 years going on 10 (in July). Love can come when you least expect it. Good luck in your search or it just falls in your lap.

• I met my husband in high school. I started talking to him to make another guy jealous, and he turned out to be a really nice guy, I just wasn’t into him that way. We came back after summer break and carried on where we left off, him liking me and me thinking “Well, he’s kind of geeky, but really nice”. He’s a total math whiz so I started going to his house after school for tutoring. I think I started to fall then, and by the end of that year, we were a couple. We dated for two years, then eloped three months after I turned 19. Almost 8 years and two babies later, we’re very happy together. :)

• Hey, Beet!
  I’m 34 and have been with my 27 y.o. bf for 3 years. (I had been single for 5 years before I met him!) We met while I was visiting my friends’ cabin on Lake Superior at an outdoor bar. He was there playing in a tennis tournament with his buddies. When you’re on vacation, everyone is more open and willing to talk to strangers, I think.

  He came up to me and asked if I was playing pool, and we started talking about Bob Dylan and our mutual love for him — he was wearing a Dylan t-shirt. We hung out the next 2 nights (drunkenly) though I didn’t think he was hitting on me on account of his age.

  He called me the day we returned home (minneapolis). Turns out he had just moved to an apartment a few blocks away from my condo — what are the odds? When he called all he said was, “Hi, when are we going out?” I loved his straight-forwardness. There was no grey area here, he liked me and knew what he wanted.

  He showed up at my door in a tie-dyed Bob-Dylan t (a different one from when we met), big faded baggy jeans, tennis shoes, and scruffy hair. I thought, “He is WAY too young!” but we went to an art opening and a pizza place afterward. We had an awesome time, and rest is history.

  Since then, he has moved in, we have a cat and a dog, he cut his hair, ditched the baggy jeans, and has new brown shoes that are more appropriate for gallery openings. So don’t rule out guys that look a little rough around the edges, and def don’t rule out the younger lads, either! They make great boyfriends!
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• Hey Beet –

  I’m fairly new to your site (LOVE IT), and I just had to jump into this discussion. After having my heart broken, stomped on, ground into practical nothingness and then apparently set on fire by the guy I’d been seeing, I finally got angry enough to dry my eyes, blow my nose, and think about revenge. :) In my ‘research’ of the ex, I found that the entire time we were together he was actively looking for ‘something better’ (his words) on several online dating sites. OUCH. So in a fit of anger, I posted my profile to let him know he hadn’t broken me. I never really expected responses, but I got a lot and decided that I would try dating guys I normally wouldn’t, since my existing pattern had proven to be rather self destructive.

  On Valentine’s Day 2000, my now husband sent me an email. At first I wasn’t really that interested. He was in the military, he was thinking about moving to OK in November (I lived in NC), and frankly, he seemed too nice. But I emailed back anyway we started emailing, then IM’s, then talking. We had our first date that April, got married in December, and now have two kids and live in Germany and are coming up on 9 years of a damn good marriage (although like a prior poster mentioned, it takes a lot of work).

  I knew he was the one for me two months into dating him for two reasons. One, if he said he would call me, he either called me exactly when he said he would, or had someone call me to tell me that he couldn’t call like he said but would call as soon as he could (and he always did). Two, in some moment of insanity wrapped up in the need for a new look, I got the worst haircut of my life. It was horrible. I warned him it was pretty bad (my friends agreed, btw) and when he saw it for the first time, his eyes got wide and he said, “I won’t lie – that’s really bad, but you could shave your head and I wouldn’t care.” That was it – he had me.

  So I don’t know that I have any great advice to offer, but if I hadn’t had my heart broken so completely I would have never gone out with my husband and I wouldn’t be so happy today.

• I used to feel the same way, because I never had a serious boyfriend at all, until I met my current boyfriend 2 years ago (I was 22! how’s 22 years for a long time without a boyfriend?) I met him at work, and when we both got laid off around the same time, we kept in touch and then we started going out. So I guess even when you think everything is going wrong (losing your job, being broke and single) if you’re open to it, your luck can change really quickly if you happen to meet the right person.

• I meet my husband while studying abroad in Italy. The first time I went out with my friends we stopped at dive bar first. There I meet my husband. He followed me (and my friends) to the next bar. He bought me a drink, I gave him my number. He texted me “You like sea mee?” the next day so we meet up for gelato. We spent four months together, then I flew back to visit him for late summer then again for New Years. He asked me to marry him at New Years. We went and bought a ring on the street that I first lived on. We married last June in his country of Albania.

• I met my husband at work. He had the office across the hall. He was the goody two shoes guy, I was the girl who liked the bad guys. After getting screwed over by jerks one too many times, he asked me out and I accepted. Turns out he had tickets to the first game of the season for our local pro football team for the same night. He blew off the game to take me out cause he felt it was the right thing to do.

  My motto-the man on the white horse is NOT coming. Find the guy who is gonna hold your head while you are puking in the toilet for three days. Find the guy that is not gonna be screwing the labor and delivery nurse when you just had your baby.

  Don’t go out looking for the hot guys. Give the ones that are actually interested a chance. For the long haul, they are the guys that are life partners, not f*ck buddies. Figure out what you want out of life, and look for that. Do you need a “wife” who takes care of stuff, or the macho man who conquers you? The guy who takes out the garbage, or sweeps you away to exotic locales? A millionaire, or a guy who doesn’t sleep with your best friend? Whatever works for you…

• My husband and I met on the first day of classes our freshman year of college. We were living on the same floor and we were both in the lounge doing homework. He noticed I was working on French, which he’s fluent in, and offered his help. I wrote down his name and room number and then promptly forgot all about him. It wasn’t until a couple of months later, while I was hanging out with his friends, that we actually spent any time together. We were friends for multiple months, he was crushing on one of my girlfriends. Then I took the initiative. I told him I liked him and he told me he liked me and six years later we’re still together.

  As for knowing it was love, he knew a month in, it took me 6 months. I had actually started dating him thinking it would be a fling until the end of the semester and that over break we could end it, but he hooked me and I’m very glad he did.

• I met my mine (who is absolutely the best) at Trader Joes 8 months ago. TJ’s is very cruisy, I highly recommend it :)

  Beet, you’re a beautiful, smart, funny girl, there’s a perfect guy out there for you. Have faith.

  • Someone above mentioned younger guys, so Beet, you should combine younger guys and Trader Joe’s and head to the Trader Joe’s on Madison. The cashiers are cute. :D

• First, hope you feel better soon. Flu = sux ass!

  I do think there’s a plan for all of us and it will happen in the way it is supposed to. I do think you have to be open to it though.

  I swore off marriage and kids towards the end of of college in favor of a long successful career. So naturally, I met my husband within a few months of graduating and was married within 2 years!

  I moved after college in search of a job. My first job was at a start up TV station, so there was a really small crew there to get things going. He was one of those people. He had also moved for this job. So we’re both in a new town, didn’t really no anyone but who we worked with, and we hit it off.
  We denied that we were seeing each other at first because of work, but gave up on that. The truth was we were probably friends first, but there was an undeniable attraction. I could be myself with him and that was huge. There was nothing out of the ordinary… we talked, hung out, and our relationship grew. We had lots in common and we just fit together.

  My mom was sick when we met and she died 6 months before our wedding. He stayed through it all. Not just stayed… but supported and carried and cried and above all loved. And it didn’t stop there. My sister, my dad… he’s been there through it all. We face everything in our lives, good or bad, together as a team.

  To this day he’s still my best friend. One of my good friends describes her husband as her “go to” person… you know that first person you call when something goes wrong or right… he’s been my go to for over 17 years.
  Not to say there aren’t days that he wears through my last nerve and there aren’t the occasional fantasies about being single! But the truth is, that’s just blowing off steam. We celebrated our 15 year anniversary this past October and I can’t really imagine my life without him.

  Hang in there. It’ll happen for you. You are a wonderful, beautiful, talented woman. The right guy will figure that out. Me… I’d pray about it. I know others will disagree and this is not a religious forum, but I’m a Christian and that’s what I believe with all my heart. God has a plan, and I believe things happen in His time, but I also think He wants active participants, so talk to Him about it. Open your heart and He’ll lead the way.

• Hi Beet, my boyfriend and I were introduced by a mutual friend. We became friends first and we were friends for almost a year until he finally asked me out. At first I was really hesitant about dating someone I had become friends with but a year later, we are still together.

  Best of luck to you, I’m sure you’ll find whomever you’re looking for in no time!

• My husband and I have been married for 16 years. We met through a mutual friend hookup! Sorta like a blind date thing. I had a bunch of friends over to my house one night for supper and my friend, Bob, brought him (Dave) along, after he asked if it was okay. I said, the more the merrier! The minute he walked through the door and said hi and stuck his hand out to shake mine, I was done. Our eyes locked and I couldn’t get over his dazzling white perfect toothed smile and sparkly blue eyes. We talked all night about everything under the sun and found that we had much in common. He was funny and made me laugh.. like the while night. My face hurt from all the laughing! He kept thanking me for the wonderful dinner and whispered in my ear once, that he thought I was a very attractive woman. Before he left that night, he asked me if I would like to go see a movie with him that following Saturday and I said sure. He picked me up and took me to a nice place for dinner, and then we saw our movie. By the time I got home that night, I knew he was special. We dated for 6 months. ALMOST 3 months before we had any sexual contact, other than a peck on the cheek! I was beginning to think he was gay! He was just waiting to make sure this was what he wanted because he knew once he went to that next level he would be done for… lol! He said he didn’t want his dick to do his thinking for him… 6 months in, he asked me to marry him and I said yes! He had been single for 18 years after his divorce and was the jokingly dubbed the “king of the he-man woman haters club” by his envious, married friends.. I was a widow with 2 teenage boys. Neither of us was thinking about getting married again, but we were both lonely and wanted a companion to do things with. Well, we BOTH fell hard! And here we are 16 years later, still going strong! I suggest letting your friends hook you up. They know you best and sometimes know what you need better than YOU do! LOL And cooking some amazing food always hooks ’em, too. Men LOVE to eat and most of them remember a tasty, home cooked meal! LOL! Men are such simple creatures, compared to women! Gotta love “em! :-)

• Beet,

  I met my husband on match.com This was almost 6 years ago. We were married about a year after we met. We are COMPLETE opposites so there’s no way eharmony could have ever matched us…lol He came with baggage, ie 2 kids and an ex wife from hell, 2 things I always told myself to stay away from. But it worked out. You take the bad with the good sometimes. No relationship can be absolutely perfect. And I wouldn’t trade my husband for anyone in the world. I had told myself before I met him that I was going to be in a long term relationship by the end of that year if it killed me. And I was engaged by December. And now I’m listening to my 20 month old play and laugh and later I’m going to pick up my husband after his week away on business and I feel giddy about it, like love butterflies even after 6 years.

  I’m totally pulling for you, Beet! You’re smart, HILARIOUS, and sweet! There’s a guy out there for you too! Best of luck!

• I met my husband of 8 years in a bar, of all places. I thought he was so cute! I approached him for a light so I’d have a reason to talk to him and we’ve been together for about 11 years now. I honestly never thought I’d hear from him. He was the drunk guy that says “tell me your number, I’ll memorize it.” No shit, he did! We have 3 kids, thinking of finishing our collection this summer with #4.

  All of this “it’ll happen when it happens” is BS. Go make it happen. And yes, love takes WORK!!! The lasting kind anyway. Good luck, don’t over think it!

• My husband and I met through a friend who knew us both well enough to see that while we are opposites, we compliment each other. Truthfully, if I had not been set up with him, it would have never happened but I trusted my friend enough to just go with it. I guess that is my advice — when you think that a person is not compatible without even getting to know them, you are possibly passing on your future spouse. Go with it, keep an open mind and realize that sometimes true love isn’t love at first or even second sight.

• well. sigh. i met my boyfriend on the internet. it was totally by accident. i went into a chatroom one saturday night, and he was there and made a remark i didn’t appreciate. i proceeded to cuss him up one side and down the other. he fell madly in love after that and pursued me until i finally agreed 9 months later to meet him. the rest is history. he is my soulmate and this has been the most rewarding relationship i have had. we were fortunate to get to know each other on the inside by phone calls and emails. three years later we moved in together and here we are, happy as bugs in a rug. i know our method is not conventional and does not work for a lot of people. i never would suggest internet dating above other means. it’s difficult and there are too many dishonest people. but i suppose it worked for us because we didn’t intend to do it. if anything we were against online dating. but i feel incredibly lucky to have found a person even though he lived 1500 miles from me and i never would have met him otherwise.

• I had been dating a really terrible guy.Such a jerk but was too young and silly to see him for what he was.On the upside, I meet and fall for his step brother.(Creepy, I know). That was 15 years ago and we’ve been married for 10 years this year. Been together for 15. Wouldn’t change a thing. We became best friends over the first year and that helped. Keep an open mind and have fun!! Don’t stress out about it.
  Good luck

• I met my fiance through my brother, my brother and I are a lot alike and so his friends and I always get along, a little too well. It’s really awesome becuase we all go out on double dates and my brother and his wife come stay the weekend with us. I don’t think I have ever heard you talk about a brother, maybe a close guy friend would work. A straight one, with straight friends. Good luck Beet!!!!

• Hi Beet! Happy V-Day!
  I met my husband in college (shocker!)
  Now, what’s interesting is that he was my best friend!
  We would give each other relationship advice, tell each other everything, party reeeeally hard, etc. He knew everything there was to know about me, and STILL fell in love with me.
  One day, out of the blue, our friendship changed, became something more… We had a long and strong relationship based on friendship and trust, and after our 4th yr aniversary we started planning our wedding. Back in college I NEVER would have imagined I’d end up marrying him!!! And I am incredibly happy and grateful!
  So maybe you’ve already met him, but you just don’t know it yet.

• I met my husband on OKcupid.com and he is my perfect match. I was scared to meet him in person the first time so I dragged a group of my friends to the bookstore with me and met him there. When we decided he wasn’t a creep they left. He spent our entire fist date hiding under his hood because he was so nervous. I love him and so do my firends, he is the male version of my female b.f.f.
  We sent her flowers today because we take her shopping to by the other one gifts and she said she wanted flowers and has no one right now.

• Hey BEEEEET! :)

  My boyfriend and I met at work. He managed a marketing office, and well.. He was my manager. Its been 2 years, and weve been together ever since :D

  I suggest you just go out there, look cute, and dont take things too seriously. Flirt, have a good outlook on things, and a positive attitude. There are men everywhere (quality ones, mind you) go to the grocery store, new concerts, a coffee shop.. Let it happen!

  Cant wait to hear about your journey! Keep us posted!

  Good luck :D

• P.S I was watching the same TLC program.. It was too cute! They were meant for eachother, too cute.. I was in tears too

• Beet,
  I’m so proud of the way I met my husband b/c it is totally out of character for me. I was at a bar getting a drink when I turned around and saw this gorgeous latin guy, with the sweetest smile, sitting by himself. I went over to say hello and we started talking. Things were going well when suddenly his date showed up! I hadn’t known he was there with someone and I was so disappointed (but not ready to give up). When she got up to say hi to a friend I said to him “si no sale bien con ella, llamame a mi.” It worked and we’ve been together for years now!

• Me and my fiance met in high school french. My freshman year, his sophomore. I liked him immediately and he liked me but he was super shy and never asked me out and neither of us knew the feelings were mutual. He started dating this girl because she took the initiative and came on really strongly and he figured he might as well. They dated for about two months and then he started dating a friend of hers (causing major drama) This girl he dated for almost two years and she continually cheated on him. She was basically a psychotic, not allowing him to have any female friends or hang out with male friends without her. He kept taking her back, but eventually it got to be too much and he broke up with her. Meanwhile this whole time I still like him and keep turning down guys that ask me out, because subconsciously I know none of them are right. After he dumped his ex we started really talking again (because we were allowed to!) and he had decided he wasn’t going to have another relationship for a long time… unless he could convince me to go out with him. It took him about a month to do so, but eventually I agreed. We’re incredibly happy together now, and when it’s right you just know it’s right. We’re going to get married on the anniversary of the day he asked me out- Fourth of July (Either 2011 or 2012).

• On-line is how we and many of our friends got together. I highly recommend it.

• i met my boyfriend a few years ago at a party he threw. It was a pirate party and my boyfriend at the time and I didn’t wear a pirate costume. We were told we had to walk the plank that they set up at the pool, so we took our cloths off to do so. When we jumped in we decided to just have sex in that pool.
  My friend that brought us there was so embarrassed, but my future boyfriend thought it was hilarious so he grabbed his camcorder and interviewed us about our motivations.
  I always thought that guy was cute, and would say hi to him when I saw him out. My friend that brought us to his party even invited him to party with us and that current boyfriend one halloween.
  A few years later after that relationship dissolved; I saw him again. I asked him out and we’ve been together ever since.
  To this day he has a video somewhere of me being intimate with another man in his mom’s pool. My kind of unconditional love.
  Happy Valentine’s Day Beet! I hope your true love finds you, even if it is in a compromising position with someone else. Great story to tell the grandkids?

• Well, Beet. It looks like high school and AA meetings are your best bet!!!

  I am in the exact same boat: late 20’s, single for a few years, and no clue how to find decent dudes. I just moved to Denver, too, which makes it worse.

  So, if you figure something out, let me know!

  You could always peruse the Craigslist “Casual encounters” section….My friends and I always find TONS of gems in there.

• By time I was 30, I had given up on finding a decent boyfriend, let alone a husband, so I basically threw in the towel. There’s nothing more repulsive to a man than a desperate woman. I met him in a country club; he admitted that he had also stopped actively looking for a mate and I’m glad he had. To make things more difficult, we lived 600 miles apart. Despite the ominous predictions from both of our families, we were engaged within 90 days and married a year later. Those who secretly took bets that the marriage would fail? Pay up, bitches! It’s been 16 years now.

• I met met my current bf through my ex-bf!! (It was weird for the fist 1-2 months we were dating but now it’s been 2 years and they boys are friends again.)

• Hi Beet,

  I found my husband on Yahoo Personals. Does it sound weird? Yes. Is it weird when you really think about it? No. Online Dating sites allow people to cover all of the basics (age, name, likes, dislikes, work, play, etc) before ever even meeting, so you do know if you are compatible ahead of time. I would highly recommend looking into it. Just be honest (I don’t think that’s a problem…) and keep at it.

  I met my husband two days after seeing him on the site, and we’ve been together ever since. It works!

• Beet, my advice to you is to just have fun right now — maybe post/answer some personal ads with no real intention of it turning into something serious. I firmly believe that nobody should get into a serious relationship until they’re at least 30, because we are lucky to live in a society that supports self-actualization and a big part of that occurs during your 20’s, when you can spend time (unselfishly!) focusing on who you are and what you want. So try out different things and see how they fit.

  I know where you’re at — I was celibate through my mid-20’s and at around 26/27 I was like, “OK! I’m ready for a partnership!” so I got all focused and crazy about it, in the process learning I was totally not ready for the level of compromise necessary for a negotiable, long-term commitment to another person, and nothing really happened. In fact, it wasn’t until I was just looking for a regular FWB kind of arrangement that I met my current partner a couple of years ago, and I think taking the pressure off, not forcing it to be somethine specific, really allowed it to take on a form I might not otherwise have noticed.

  All this to say….relax, have fun, get laid. This is your time to fully explore yourself because heaven knows that when you are hooked up to a partner and having kids, you’re not going to have a lot of time to do that self-exploration…so this is a gift you give yourself (and your future partner and children who get to be around someone who is comfortable with who they are).

• i met mine at band camp.
  you could try that lol

• Beet-

  Two Words: Dog Park

  Dog park, dog park, dog park. You guys have those out there right? That’s a great place to meet great guys. Especially if you want a dude that will be as crazy about your canines as you are.

  Good Luck!

• i met my boyfriend through my ex, that guy is trouble anyway. another time I hooked up with my neighbour and before him was a guy my sister worked with

• I met my husband of 8 years on love@aol.com (I think it’s defunct now). I was late twenties and hadn’t been in a relationship in FOUR years, and I just thought, what the hell. We met online and this is back when it was an anomaly to do so, we absolutely fell in love and are so happy together to this day. I think online dating can be great, of course there are lots of losers out there but still some gems too. My girlfriend and my sister both met their husbands on Plenty of fish, another singles site. Good luck and don’t give up! Be open to whatever and that’s when it will happen for you.

• I had to jump back in with this, it worked wonders for a friend. Get a custom skin for your laptop with your website logo and photo printed on it. Then spend time everyday at a place like Starbucks (and by your apt. pool) working online. Guaranteed that people, hopefully cute guys, will come over to talk.

  Also the dog park idea is great.

  • hahaha that IS a good Idea! I never thought about it but anytime I take my laptop with my case on it (that my graphic-design-majoring ass couldnt help but to take a sharpie to it) mass people come up and talk to me. too bad I am crazy and just say “thanks” and put my earbuds back in. no more ear buds.

  • Ha ha, this IS a really good idea! Anyone know where you can get a good laptop skin made???

    • http://www.skinit.com/devices/laptop?kw=laptop%20skins&gclid=CNec9tuQ3ZgCFQKbnAodQ1IVdA

      I really like this website. Hope it helps, Beet :-)

    • http://www.skinit.com/devices/laptop?kw=laptop%20skins&gclid=CNec9tuQ3ZgCFQKbnAodQ1IVdA

      I really like this site. Hope it helps, Beet. :-)

    • I got mine at http://www.schtickers.com/ I liked their prices for custom pieces over other sites I checked out.

• I met my guy at a bowling alley. He had a girlfriend, I was dating his best friend, but we hit it off immediately. We both broke up with our respectives (I only dated his friend for 2 months so that wasn’t a big deal- and his friend and I are still close) because of incompatibility with them and a few weeks later he and I started going out. We’ve been together for 2 years now, and going strong.

  Nice guys turn up at places you wouldn’t expect. I wasn’t actively looking for anybody, and then I found him. Don’t stress it- you seem really fun and guys like fun girls, so just be yourself, have all of your friends introduce you to all of THEIR friends, and eventually, you’ll find somebody awesome.

• Hey Beet…..I was in a HORRIBLE relationship for 2 years when I met a guy that rocked my world. After being with him for a year, I TOTALLY pushed him away. I decided that I needed to be by myself for a while….Then I met Aaron. I was managing a pizza place, and he became one of our delivery drivers. To make a long story short, I made the decision that I wanted to be with Aaron and I conciously made an effort to NOT make the same mistakes I had made in my previous relationships. To let the little things slide, and concentrate on what really mattered. 6 years later we are still going strong..Good luck girl….I know you will find your own Aaron soon. Just stay true to yourself :)

• I met my GIRLFRIEND through a friend of mine that used to date her. They broke up for over a year and we kept in touch and realized we were really in love. We didnt tell each other for over a year, and finally, when I was engaged to a guy and she was ready to move away to Seattle, we told each other. That was it, 2 years ago, and weve been inseperable since.

  I put her in CAPS because you never know who you’ll fall in love with. I never dreamed of actually dating a girl, so I def wasnt looking for her. I’m not promoting lesbianism for you, I’m promoting keeping your eyes open and expecting the unexpected.

  Good luck Beet.

• I had just turned 25 and was going on 2 1/2 years of being single as well…went on a group outing to the bowling alley and ended up meeting my current husband. I have to say it was honesty the one time I wasn’t even looking, and I met him. It’s so cliche to say, because I hated when people said that to me, but it will happen!

• For what it’s worth, you’re smart, funny, witty and sarcastically in tune with the best of them & a truly a clock stopping fox. I’d date you but the whole america/canada distance thing would get in the way lol ;)

  Happy Valentines Sasha, hope you feel better soon.

• Well… I met my love at the wildest college type of party, kegs, jungle juice, people EVERYWHERE. I was rather hammered when I stammered into the most wonderful stranger, where we schemed to get free booze and high fived all night, allegedly, that is what my friends tell me transpired. School ended, and we stayed in touch all summer, and when we came back that fall semester, it was full blown love.

  Beet- he’s out there for you, don’t change a bit, He’s looking for a girl exactly like you.

• My daughter just met a great guy speed dating. Go Figure!

• eric and I met at a bar after I left the stage on open mic night. he was standing by the bathrooms looking just like hunter s thompson in his floppy hat and toothpick held like a cigarette, and he said, “hello young lady.” I stopped in my tracks. so glad I played that night. I think I won him over with my rendition of “living on a prayer” by bon jovi (in the style of tori amos.) we’ve been together 10 months.

• Seattle has a tough singles scene. I have lived here since 1995 and I met my husband of 7 years on line. A smart buisness person like yourself should check out some of the many tech startup socials like Hops and Chops. These are great places to meet smart, creative people like yourself.You don’t just want to meet someone, you need to meet someone worthy. Good luck

• I’m 26 and my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years.

  We met because he told mutual friends that he needed a girlfriend and asked if they knew any girls that were single.

  So I guess it helped that he was actually ready to be in a relationship. I was the one that actually wasn’t ready :) but he won me over. We’ve had our ups and downs and I’ve had my doubts. I was so young (and still am!) but I know that we’ll always be there for each other. He’s my best friend first and foremost and I think that’s what really makes us work.

  So don’t hold back and don’t take any shit. There will be someone who will accept you as you and will love you for it.

• I met my fiance online in a forum, he lived in finland and i lived in new york, so we were just friends for four yearss even though we admitted to have feelings for each other, thinking nothing would come of it because of the distance.

  Then he came to visit new york and meet me in person for the first time, and it was hard not to fall in love with him, after a week, he confessed he loved me and i felt the same

  so last fall he moved in with me and we got engaged.
  and so we are getting married this summer in finland!

  So i can vouch for the online route!

• My boyfriend was originally friends with my brother and some of my older friends before we met, became best friends and have been together ever since.

  If he loves and respects his mother and animals I think it is a good judge of character. Perhaps try puppy school or dog parks??

  Send out positive vibes and you’ll soon get someone!!!

• I’m glad you’re doing something Beet!! I met my husband at work so I’m guessing that won’t work for you but I agree with a previous post that suggested the dog park. You’re beautiful, smart and funny so I think that if you put your mind to it you will find a wonderful guy to appreciate all your fine qualities, including your little Buddha belly and your nice jugs :) Good luck!

• Depends on the kind you want..
  Smart guys: bookstores, cafes (except for Starbucks which attracts pretty much anyone)
  Athletic and physically-disciplined guys (ones who are likely not to “let themselves go” after marriage): the gym
  Rich guys: law schools, med schools, business schools, libraries of (prestigious) universities.

• Been there, Beet, been there.
  I did what a mentor of mine had done years earlier: I made a list of everything that I wanted in a man. Anything and everything I could think of that felt important to me. Then I waited, waited some more, and kept my eyes open. And in the meantime, I “did my thing.”
  When my sister and I were kids, we used to joke about the horror of men with hairy backs. That seemed like the ultimate in gross. Then one day, after having lived with my list for what seemed like forever, I thought “geez, I’d even take a guy with a hairy back if he had everything else on the list.”
  Voila! My knight appeared very soon after that thought. For real. He was, and is, every single thing on that list. This year makes 9 years together, 6 of them married. And the hairy back? It just ain’t no big thang.
  Good luck. Always remember you deserve the best.

  • Ha ha, so he does have a hairy back?? I LOVE that story!!!

    • I love this story too! Making a list (either actual or in your head) of what you want and what you can cope with is a good way to find someone who’s right for you. My guy isn’t perfect, but he is right in all the ways that matter (and I couldn’t cope with the hairy back, but I’m fine with a beer gut). :) Beet, you will find someone who complements you. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t make you smile, because it’s better to be single and hanging with Leo than with someone you resent. (Yes, I married that man, and at least only wasted 5 years of my life on him before leaving.) You deserve someone who makes you smile.

• met my significant other through a mutual friend. it wasn’t a blind date or anything (i think those are too high-pressure), rather it was just someone from my friend’s social circle who i met one day while hanging out with her and a group of her friends. definitely avoid meeting people at bars… i did that before this relationship and it was nothing but trouble! i also think that online dating can work well if you’re willing to deal with some boring/awkward dates to get to that occasional good one. good luck :o)

• met my significant other through a mutual friend. it wasn’t a blind date or anything (i think those are too high-pressure), rather it was just someone from my friend’s social circle who i met one day while hanging out with her and a group of her friends. definitely avoid meeting people at bars… i did that before this relationship and it was nothing but trouble! i also think that online dating can work well if you’re willing to deal with some boring/awkward dates to get to that occasional good one. good luck :o)

• fuck valentines day. This is the first year I have hated it (and I mean I NEER had a problem with it. I never had a boyfriend or anything..). The first year ALL my friends are living hours away, my family is 1,000 miles away, and the one friend I have here is ditching me to go out with this “big sexy black guy”. well anyways I am off to a gallery, hoping I will meet a cute random guy who is just as lonely and sad as I am.
  I wont be able to help you much beet, (because this is the first time I am going to actually look for love..) but I am right there with you. and may God help us all. lol

• I am in the kind of fairy tale love that I otherwise would probably puke at hearing about. Long story short, I met my guy in sophomore year in highschool where we had art together, he fell in love with me but I had no interest, we got closer as friends but I still did not see him as anything more, years went on and at the end of our senior year, after him growing on me with our shared sense of humor, his immense sweetness, his honesty and geekiness, something snapped in me and i blurted out “why haven’t you fucking asked me out?’

  he asked me out the next day and it’s been almost a year, and I can honestly say that it keeps getting better every day.

  I was always independent and not one to indulge in guys- I had to work out some personal issues on my own before being able to do that. But I found that when I stopped fighting what’s right in front of me- a true friend who worships me and simultaneously respects me, loves me, and makes me feel like the most amazing woman in the world, and I just fell. Any guy who is goofy around you, is a great listener, is absolutely smitten with you (weird habits, flaws and all!), and has things in common with you (like sense of humor, taste in hobbies..) AND looks at you like you are the only woman in the universe, he is worth giving a chance, even if he is not your “type”. I couldn’t help but fall for my guy, who was very different from previous boyfriends (the Prada model, the skinny garage band rocker..), but the most amazing one I could ever ask for.

  But my last piece of advice to you, the hilarious and totally cute Beet- is don’t worry so much about LOVE. As someone who was previously very independent, I found that while a relationship is great, being alone and just letting life take it’s course is a blast as well. Nothing good ever comes from forcing things to happen. Never change who you are, never settle for less, and listen to the butterflies in your stomach. Men and relationships do not a complete woman make. But put your awesome self out there and if someone great comes along, cool. If not, it’s OKAY! In our society, relationships are fucking worshiped and made into a MUST for women, but it’s total bullshit. They are just like anything else in life- a mystery with it’s ups and downs.

  Love yourself, and you’ll attract someone who is man enough to love you more.

• My boyfriend (who I didn’t like very much when we first met) liked my best friend months before him and I met. She wasn’t interested and he’d just gotten out of a long term relationship. So did I. I saw his picture on MySpace and told my friend to call him and tell him I thought he was cute. We were sort of each other’s rebounds and first met at a Burger King. From that point, we went to a homecoming dance and have been together for three years.

• My husband and I met on the internet! We were both fans of the same band, and started out as friends chatting on a message board. He lived over 1000 miles away, so we didn’t really try to force anything, but eventually we couldn’t help it. We had to meet in person, and it was absolutely love by that point. We dated for a year, were engaged for 3, and got married this past August.
  And to note: I had just come off a horrible 3+ year relationship when we first started talking. One filled with all sorts of codependency and drug abuse. I certainly wasn’t looking for anything at all just yet. But you can’t fight true love!
  And it will happen to you when it’s the right time. You have plenty to offer any good man!

• My fiancé and I are huge nerds. We were part of the same Vampire: The Masquerade group (it’s a nerd game like D&D, kinda) and that’s how we met. We got to know each other and realized that we had similar interests and etc. We’re also Trekkies, kind of like you! =D

• I met my husband through my ex-boyfriend. He was on a visa from England for six months and they were roommates at the time. We hung out at a few social events before he asked me out by email. We were married six months later and this is our fourth valentine’s day together. All I can say is that it happens when you least expect it, and when it does you’ll know that it’s right!

• My husband and I met when I was 16/17 and he was 19/20. I thought he was the bee’s knees because he’s English and had an accent and all that. We didn’t even go on our first date until I had graduated high school, but we broke up like not even a month later.

  Fast forward four years — my fiancee and I had just broken up and so had my husband and his ex-girlfriend. We started just hanging out as friends and then we started dating. Within a few months, we moved in together. Last June we were finally married.

  My husband and I were almost opposites and his mum credits me with helping him get his life together. I think the most important thing is that we make each other laugh and we support each other unconditionally. He’s the only person I know (besides my family) who loves me for me. He’s a great father to our two boys and an incredible husband.

  Thanks for asking about how we met our significant others. It’s made me remember how much I love him!

  You’ll find your guy. It really DOES happen when you least expect it because after being in a serious relationship for four years, I really wasn’t expecting to come out of it and find such a great guy.

• I hated my boyfriend up until sophomore year of high school. I transferred to his school and was in his English class for a couple of days in 8th grade and apparently he like, fell in love with me. His friend asked me out for him almost daily. This is where I pretended I have some kind of hearing problem. He had this really ugly mustache, but once he decided to shave it sophomore/junior year, he didn’t look bad anymore. So, I’m only a freshman in college, but we’ve been dating since junior year.

• At a friend’s houseparty… Friend of a friend.

  Best way to meet people, whether or not they’re gonna be new boyfriends, lovers, friends, whatever, in my experience.
  Soooo next time someone invites you out/ to a party etc and you’re all not wanting to leave the house, go! It could totally be worth it :)

• I met my boyfriend online in 2005. *I currently live in the US, and he lives in the UK. *
  (this is a very simplified version of our story)

  In November of 2005, we met through a chat website-chathouse. Soon after we started talking via webcam/msn messenger every day and slowly became closer. We seemed to just mesh together so when I got the opportunity at my university to study abroad in England for a semester, I jumped at the chance.

  I went to England in January of 2008 and met him for the very first time at my school there. He drove about 4 hours to meet me, and we felt at ease with one another immediately.

  Throughout the rest of the semester I would go and stay with him every few weekends or so, and at the end of the semester I decided to stay with him for another two months after my classes were over.

  Unfortunately, I had to return to America, and so I did. We soon began making plans for him to come here and meet my family.

  He arrived here in America on December 17th and was able to stay with me and my family for Christmas and New Years, but sadly had to return a month later.

  We are currently making plans for a more permanent stay, either me there or him here. It is a very complicated process, but I am hopeful.

• My husband and I met at a wedding–we were both seated at the singles table. Although the truth is that neither me nor my now husband was actually single, but rather too embarrassed to bring our respective fuck buddies to the wedding as a date. So, we jokingly fought over the butter dish, shared a cigarette, and some flirtatious banter, but nothing really came of it. (I actually thought he was too nice.) But, 7 months later he finally mustered up the courage to ask me out. The romance moved very slowly and we became friends first, which for me was so weird. Now, we are happily married and solidly in love, but most of all best friends who enjoy each other more than anything else. We pig out, have great sex, then talk about politics, or just berate each other in jest. It’s perfect and he has seen my cellulite, and knows that I do go number 2 but seems to love me anyway. Yay for me.

• After a horror year including 2 breakups, a misscarriage, 2 job changes, a sexual harrasment claim (not against me, by me!) and the complete and utter betrayal by a best friend, I wanted to die. So I knew to survive I had to make a dramatic change, and stop letting fate push me around.

  I left my life in Australia, my house, my cat, my surviving horse (the other one died this year), my family and friends and my legal qualifications and came to Canada.

  I ended up working in Charlottetown PEI at the local hostel, living in the staff house a block away.

  One rainy day my friend Rachel and I noticed a little drunk man in a tam o’shanter and a bright yellow raincoat walking down the street towars us. he veered off into the yard of the house next door where he let loose the two dogs in the yard. We tried vainly to stop him, gave up and caught the dogs. We threw the dogs in our front door and scared the bejeezuz out of our Japanese flatmates. We put them in the backyard and called the police.

  “wearing a….what?”said the police officer “did you see a leprechaun ma’am?”

  Little did we know that by the time the police came the dogs had liberated themselves through a hole. We found one, stuck him back in his own yard and wrote an apologetic note explaining why there was only one dog in his yard. We put this on the front door of the neighbour’s house.

  Later we found the other dog but forgot about the note.

  When I did meet the neighbour he was very confused. I aplogised for the note, apologised for the confusion, then apologised for taking up so much of his time apologising. Then I realised he was really attractive and blabbered a bit and ran off.

  we chatted over the fence all summer, but nothing happened. Before he left to go West for work he choped me enough wood to last until he got back.

  When he came back early after hurting his knee I was so happy to see him I just threw myself into his arms, and after hanging out every day for a week I got sick of it all so I made the first move for the first time ever, and to cut a long story short we are getting married soon and have our first baby on the way!

  He had a horrible backstory too, and I think that sometimes that makes you appreciate real love more.

• So, I guess I’m another one of those people who met their significant other online. November of 1995 I finally managed to get online with a spanking new computer and by February of 1996 I’d joined an online writing group that had it’s own small chatroom where everyone roleplayed as their writing persona’s. Cheesy but it gave me somewhere to write my own brand of mayhem. I met my guy there, only he wasn’t one of the regulars or even one of the writers, but a IRL friend of the site’s owner who only came into the room to make fun of the rest of us. I held my own against his sarcasm, which prompted him to start talking to me outside the chat room. We talked only sporadically for the first few months, then pretty much every day for the next six years.

  By 2002 he was my best friend and we spent almost every night chatting online, with at least a phone call once a week. Since alot of those phone calls went on for four to six hours at a time, there was no denying we were close. But I lived in Florida and he lived in South Carolina and there was various reasons we couldn’t make the trip either way. We both admitted an attraction but we were pragmatic enough to admit it was silly to name the emotions when we had no clue how we’d feel about each other when we met in the flesh.

  Finally in April of 2002, he managed to make the trip to Florida in order to find work there and to meet me. We hit it off, to say the least. Four days after we met, he asked told me all our friends considered it a done deal so we should go ahead and get married. I told him he should give himself some time to decide if I really was who he wanted and should ask me to marry him once he was sure. He was quiet a few moments, then asked me to marry him again. I said yes.

  We’ve been together ever since.

• My boyfriend and I met sophomore year when he was dating one of my best friends. He was kinda chunky but still cute but was kinda involved with her and I never would in a million years would try to break things up between them. Then i moved away and got into a very very bad relationship that was abusive three years later moved back to Michigan. After being very depressed and giving up on guys completely I got a random IM from this person i couldn’t remember ( I hadn’t been on AIM in three years and he was the first to IM me.) Come to find out later he thought I was some other girl he used to know and just wanted to get laid, but thats not the point of my story. He asked me to hang out that night with him and his friends and I was really nervous because i didn’t really know him and what if he had turned into a total sleez bag. But i said yes and he came and picked me up, and to my surprise he had lost about 80lbs and grew out his hair and was a total hottie. We hung out with his friends and played guitar hero for a while and then decided to go back to my house and watch a movie. Things happened and I didn’t really care that if after this night he didn’t call me but he wouldn’t stop calling me and asking me out the next couple of days (even though i didn’t want a bf at the time) I finally said that i would go out with him again and he hasn’t left since. Yesterday was our one year and we couldn’t be happier. We haven’t ever gotten in a “fight” ever, we just talk things through. He’s my true soul mate and we found each other by chance at a point in both of our lives that we thought we would never find love. Don’t ever give up, when you stop looking you’ll find each other.

• I somehow missed this thread yesterday (I’m blaming my sickness).
  I met my amazing husband back in 1996. I was 19, he was about to turn 21. We were both in the same chatroom online for the city we live in and my friend and I were playing around in the room just being, well, 19. I kept saying things like, “I love men with big….” and then I’d leave it like that for a few lines and then throw in “wallet”. After a while of playing it like I was some gold digger, this guy sends me an IM asking me if I’m really like that. I then tell him, no. I’m just messing around. We talked a bit and then again once or twice after that. I somehow got the balls to ask him to meet up and about a week or so later, we met at a local bookstore. I remember being so happy that he even knew we had one or that he even knew where it was.

  We met and I remember seeing him and thinking, holy shit. If that’s NOT him, then whoever he is, I’m going to talk to him. We hadn’t exchanged pics (this was 1996 after all, and we hadn’t yet perfected our online photo sharing skills). He was (and still is) a beautiful man. Anyway, he eventually came over and asked if I was me (I had a friend with me for support/backup) and the rest is history. We talked for a bit, left to go get something to eat and exchanged numbers. Went on a date about a week later and have been together ever since.
  We married in 2002, had our first kid in 2004 and our second this past September.
  I think it’s important for me to add that I was a HUGE whore before I met him. I had done a lot of stupid shit before I met him, even at the young age of 19. I don’t think I had ever even been on a date before I met him. All my “relationships” prior to him involved alcohol, pot and random hookups.
  I also wanted to add that my relationship with my husband hasn’t always been great. We’ve had tons of moments where we wondered if we could make it. Before and after we married. We’re total opposites (he’s sane, I am not) and that’s not always a good thing. But I think now that we’re older (you have the years and our ages, you can do the math on your own), and have children (one of whom is blind) things are somehow different. But in a good way.
  So, good luck to you. I know it can happen. One of my best friends who hasn’t had a relationship in SIX years, just found her soul mate, just a month shy of her 32nd birthday.
  So–Chin up, Beet. When it happens, it’s going to be fucking amazing. You seem to have your shit together, it’s only natural that some Beet Love is sure to follow…

• Lol, my boyfriend and me actually just broke up today, happy valentines day indeed. …well i guess ex-boyf now. But we met 4 and a half years ago through a friend when i was in high school and then didn’t really talk much until 3 years ago and due to the fact that all my friends were too lazy to go out at the weekend it kept ending up just us together so we got to know each other properly and got together in march ’06. So yeah a long time, considering im 20 :S (well to me anyways lol)
  But feel better soon!! x

• I met my boyfriend through my ex boyfriend. I met my ex boyfriend through his little sister, who was in my year of school.

  I started hanging around the ex and his friends, and continued to do so after we broke up because of the amazing friendships I had found.

  I started talking with his friend, only as friends, for a few months. We started hanging out and after another few months started dating and made it official.

  I didn’t even know who he was when I was with my ex, and I didn’t really think anything more of him than just a friend when we started talking etc.. but, three years later and I am happier than I could have imagined.

  The ex, my boyfriend & I are all great friends still, which makes things a lot easier. We actually went to said sisters wedding yesterday!

• Our story is kind of an interesting one. I’m going to try to keep it as short and concise as possible —

  I used to be a lead singer in a local, relatively well-to-do cover band in my area and had made a good amount of connections with the local musicians in the area. One band, of whom the lead singer happened to be a good friend of my, now husband, was playing at a bar one night and friends of mine wanted to go out and see these guys play. (PS, if you’re in the East Coast area, check out http://www.uuu.org, they put on a GREAT SHOW)

  They showed up at my house and literally forced me to go out. Not that I didn’t like these guys… And not that I didn’t want to see my lead-singer guy friend, but being that I sang in a cover band, in bars, for a living at the time, the last place I wanted to spend FREE time was at the bar. But I went, anyway. Why not, right?

  So we’re there. I’m hanging out with my friends and their respective others (I was single at the time, and happily so). It was a good time, my cousin and his wife showed up, etc. Jay, the lead singer of the band, approaches me on their set break and we’re hanging out, talking, having a few beers. Jay goes back up on stage.

  Meanwhile, this totally smoking guy walks into the bar and I immediately pointed him out to my friends. “This guy,” I say, “will end up talking to me tonight, one way or another”. Catty, yes, I know, a little pretentious, too, but I was twenty-two years old, who’s not a little bigheaded at that age?

  Make a long story short, the guy (husband) does approach me, we end up talking, hitting it off, he buys me a drink and we chat the night away. At one point, when I was visiting the ladies’ room, my now husband approaches Jay (a mutual friend of ours, unbeknownst to us, the lead singer of the band) and asks him about my ‘status’. Jay tells him (which I didn’t find out for MONTHS after the fact) that he’s not trying to set him up with me because he knows my ‘type’ and I’m ‘too picky’ and my now husband ‘wouldn’t have a chance’. LOL

  Well, evidently, he did.

  He didn’t ask me for my number that night. I wasn’t going to ask for his, of course. So I left it up to fate to bring us back together again at some point, because I truly was quite interested in this fellow.

  Two weeks later, I’m checking my own band’s website e-mail and I come across this strange email that was signed by a very vaguely familiar man’s name, whom turned out to be my husband. This was his way of getting ahold of me. I guess Jay really was that stringent about not wanting to get involved, because he couldn’t even give the poor guy my telephone number.

  I get the email, we end up IM’ing, talking on the phone, finally go on our first date together.

  We’ve been together since that first date (here we are almost four years later), have been married for almost two of the four and have a beautiful one year old daughter. Things could not be more blissful.

  It’s amazing the things that happen when you not only least expect it, but when you’re not looking for it to happen, either.

  Love love.

• This guy i am talking about is not my boyfriend, or ever will be. He is a guy that i once knew that I’ll always remember. I had to do an exchange in university and i chose oxford. We were both from the same school. He was entering his 4th year and i am entering into my 2nd. I was quite a late bloomer. I never had a boyfriend at that time. He was pretty cute, just a little bit short. He started talking to me on the plane alot. A girl, who was also going to England, who was also in our school sees that us two talk so much and no one made an attempt to talk to her she actually left. I didn’t like him, and wasn’t too interested in talking with him. I was trying to be polite and nice so i can start a journey in a good way. Eventually i figured out he liked me. But i didn’t go for him because i found out that his gf was les. In my mind i was thinking, he dated someone who was les (i guess she didn’t know at the time she) then what da heck is wrong with him. Back then i was too innocent to think it through. i just wanted to say that i’ll always remember that. But to be honest, given another chance i wouldn’t have dated him even though i liked him too back then.

• I started dating my husband when I was sixteen, and he was eighteen. We got married almost a year ago. I’m now twenty, and he is twenty-one. When we first met, I never would have imagined he would actually be my one. He was so weird, he dressed funny and was in a bad. Whereas, I wore too much pink and thought people in bands were scary. But I gave him my nimber anyway, because we had some mutual friends through church, and I didn’t want it to run into him agian if I had told him no this time. I just planned on not answering. But I ended up answering anyway. Accidently, when I was expecting another call. Talking on the phone to him once, I was pretty much hooked. My husband is amazing. I learned that he taught himself how to sail, that he was a member of the yacht club (not his family, just him. Weird, huh?), he was into animal rescue like me, and is an eagle scout. I totally judged him the first time I met him, and I am so glad I ended up giving him a chance. He is still in a band, but I buy his clothes now so that area is better. We have so much stuff in common that you can’t tell my looking. I can’t imagine my life without him, and even though the statistics for our marriage really aren’t good at all, I know we are going to make it to forever.

• Well, I met my husband at a bar. He was on stage playing bass and I was horribly depressed and out with friends after a terribly bad breakup. He began talking to me on a break and we just hit it off. So, while I was living in NYC and he was touring the country, we dated. I would fly from a trip in Europe (I was an international flight attendant) and meet him in whatever town he was playing in and date for a week. We did this for three months when he said “so, I guess we could save on rent and get married, since you are moving back to Texas”. I told him that I would check my schedule and we set a date. My family and friends were horrified. I quit my job (which I LOVED) and left New York (which I LOVED) and married this man that I did. not. know.

  THAT is what can happen when you force things. It has been seven years and we are still together. We have the most amazing little boy that I wouldn’t trade for the world, but he was a rebound and I married because I was suffering from PTSD from Septemeber 11th, had just lost the love of my life in a demand for marriage and I figured that, since I would never love anyone again the way I had my ex, I might as well marry this guy. Don’t let it happen to you.

  By the way, I met the love of my life in New Jersey, 10 days after loosing my apartment in the September 11th attacks. He was a pilot (which I had vowed never to date) and so I brushed him off. But we were out with mutual friends and we clicked. We were both laid off from the airlines because of the aftermath of Sept. 11th and we traveled around the world together. He is still the ONLY MAN that never berated me, cheated on me, or ever treated me like less than a person. And guess what I did?? I FORCED things!!! I told him that I wanted marriage and kids and soon (I was getting old…24), and he needed to decide if he was ready. We had a painful breakup because we loved each other immensely, but he never saw himself as married. I married my husband five months after our breakup and my ex told me that it broke his heart. And now, life goes on.

  Please, Beet. Whatever you do, don’t force love. Don’t get so caught up in looking that you settle for something or push something away that could be right. Don’t make the same mistakes that I did because the consequences are eternal. Take your time, let love find you.

  • For fucks sake girl, it’s called a divorce, you always seem so sweet on here and I love your blog personality so if your not happy with this guy leave him. Take the kid. Find a new job that you can love. Move back to NY if you want to. You can do so much better dear

    • I don’t want to hurt him. Stupid, I know. I never want to cause anyone else pain, and I know what I can tolerate, so I do.

      I was almost out the door this fall, but we started counseling. We’ll see how that goes. I kind of think he is starting something with a girl at work (all the signs are there), so I will wait for that to really spring up so I have every reason in the world to leave and no good reason to stay. I just want to make sure I do what is right for my son.

• I liked my boyfriend for years and never even spoke to him. Then one day my friend went on my myspace account and added him. We starting talking and now we’ve been going out for a year. We’re very very happy :)

• We met in high school (I was 16, he was 18). I was drunk off my a$$ and went up to him and introduced myself. He thought I was a total freak.

  3 years later I went to Mickey D’s. The lady at the counter asked what I wanted and I said an egg McMuffin but you don’t serve that this time of day. He was in the grill heard what I said and made me one. He asked me out but I had to turn him down because I had a boyfriend.

  The next year I was working at Mickey D’s. I was getting ready to move out of where I was living and we were discussing if we knew anyone with a truck. At that moment my future husband pulled up in a truck he had just bought that day. September 20, 1990 — we’ve been together ever since.

• My boyfriend and I met at Chick-fil-A. I was seventeen at the time and he was twenty one. To make things more interesting he was one of my managers. One day before I went into work he added me on Myspace, I didn’t have a clue who he was until I checked who his friends were. We didn’t talk for a couple days and then on Monday he was washing his hands and said “I have oil on my hands”, I just looked at him and then asked why and he responded “I like to oil up my body, you should try it some time”. I had to admit it made me laugh. So later that day I commented on how I noticed he had great music taste. So we talked about music some as we were closing down the store, then he said he liked Konstantine [My favorite song, Andrew McMahon completes my soul with it]. A few days past and we had taken to talking on AIM and Brand New was on Conan on a Friday night. While we were watching that he said he would buy me tickets to go see Brand New and we could just hang out. Then as the conversation went on he started telling me I was really beautiful and then he asked me if I wanted to spend time with him, if I didn’t think he was too old for me. I obliged and we went on our first date the next night. It was a great night. And two days later he asked me out to make it official so we were exclusive.

  I have been with him for 2 years and about a month. It has never been an entirely easy relationship, but even when things seem to get us caught up it brings us closer. I may be young but I never want to give him up. Because after all we have been through in this past year like him losing his job, its made me realize we can make it through anything,no matter the problem. I feel really blessed and lucky to have him in my life

• Ok this is like the first time I’ve really told anyone about my relationship (we’ve been together for like 3 or so years) its just a kind of complicated thing.

  So here it is…

  We met on some online thing… buuuuuut we probably would’ve met at this one restaurant in town cause he always went there and one of my very good friends happened waitress there, oh and another one of my friends was a cook there so basically I was there a lot. Anyways… we started chatting in November of 2005 and on December 5, I lost my mom in a car accident and I needed someone to talk to (I was lost and needed someone to talk to and he was there for me even though we kind of just met).

  Now I wasn’t looking for a relationship because 6 months before we started to talk, my ex who I was “getting back together with” had passed away from meningitis and I was still really depressed from that and then my my dying, I was just lost and he was like the only one who listened to me. Later on in December he came over to my house we watched “The Adventures of Pete & Pete” together… that’s when I fell in love (I mean anyone who brings that over for a “first date” is awesome!)

  But to be exact our real first date (or our anniversary that we decided on) wasn’t until New Year’s, we watched movies and when it came to midnight, no kiss, so I had to kiss him about 2:30 am and I said, “Hey its midnight somewhere!” and we’ve been together ever since.

  He’s been like my superhero, because he was there for me in the beginning when all these horrible things happened and I didn’t scare him away. He’s my rock and has been there for me when I just break down (especially this past year, I lost a friend) and he’s there to hold me and tell me its going to be ok.

  And no I’m probably not going to get married (or engaged) this year or next… or probably not in the next 5 years… but we love each other and appreciate every moment we have together.

  I hope you find someone too, because love is worth the effort.

• I wouldn’t recommend it necessarily, but i met my boyfriend when I started a job at a legal office. it was great for about a year but did get to the point where it felt like tooo much togetherness (we literally shared a 9×11 office). it was cool to get to know two sides of him though-professional at work and goof ball at home!

• I met my girlfriend at a Christian ministry, and then we went to seminary together. Which would’ve been pretty normal, except that I too am a chick. So for three years we were “best friends”, denying the urge to rip each other’s clothes off, until one fateful night it could be suppressed no longer and if you can imagine what three years of pent-up wanting to rip each other’s clothes off leads to…

  I never would’ve guessed my other half would be a girl (she’s the first and only girl I’ve ever been with), but five minutes into meeting her I thought she was the coolest and hottest human being on the planet. I’m 23 years old and have known this incredible person for 5 years and counting. I’m in love with my best friend and it is AWESOME.

  In the beginning we tried SO hard to shove our feelings aside and pretend to be straight, split ways, or just be “normal friends”, but if something is meant to be there’s no way it can be stopped – not even by the parties involved.

  I’m sure it will just happen for you! This person is out there, probably in the most unexpected place, but when it comes it’ll knock you on your ass. In a good way! Good luck and Happy Valentine’s Day!!

• Holy smoke there’s some stories on here.

  My partner and I met through friends… blah blah blah. Not interesting.

  What is interesting is that at the time we met- we were both long term single and NOT looking for a relationship.

  So many people fall into the trap of marrying the person they happen to be with, at the time in their life they feel they should marry. It’s easy for me to say- because I’m not single. But until you can HAPPILY be your own best friend, you’re not going to be able to be healthy in a relationship. You shouldn’t be looking for something in someone else, you won’t find it. I’ve seen your photo Beet- you’re hawt! You’ve got nothing to worry about. If you’re looking for love. LOVE YOURSELF!!

  Men are pains anyway and leave pubes on the soap and their nail clippings on the coffee table. Keep em out of your house as long as you possibly can.

  • Amen Erin! They really are a pain in the butt.

• I’ve only been with my boyfriend for a little while, but still –
  I was enrolling at University, waiting in line for my student ID card photo to be taken with some male friends. As there were four of us and five spare seats, Jarith was added to our group, and started talking to a friend of mine. We went our separate ways after the photos were taken, but I bumped into him by chance again at the duckpond, by a giant Jenga set. We started talking about games we loved as a child, he asked me my name, and then told me he was picking up his new puppy tomorrow, and her name was also Kirra.

  After buying him an iced tea and helping him figure out what textbooks he needed, he asked for my number. That night, he called me and asked if I would like to go with him to pick up the puppy, and help him rename her.
  ‘Because I can’t have two girls named Kirra, can I?’

  The puppy’s name is Myffie. She gets in bed with us and wags her tail when we kiss.

• My fiance and I were fresh out of long term relationships and looking to have fun. We met at a club when his friend tried to kiss me! I dodged the kiss and then saw my man. I found myself in his arms and he found his hand on my butt! The thing was I was the DD and totally sober and he was totally fucked up (thank goodness he’s done with that shit!). I thought he was an incoherent disaster but gave him my number anyways because I thought he was the best looking man I’d ever seen. Leaving the club that night I said to my friend, “Something strange just happened.” I couldn’t figure out what it was, but I knew my life was forever changed. I’ll never forget that overwhelming feeling I had that I couldn’t define. It wasn’t love, it wasn’t happiness, it wasn’t sadness – it was something I never felt before. Here we are many years later, and he’s my best friend and soon to be husband.

  • Ahhh, I like that story. So real, but also kind of like Serendipity. You actually FELT it. That’s wonderful!

• I met my boyfriend the end of my freshman year at college at an Asian new year festival. I was really involved with performing arts stuff and this was the day all the groups were performing after a week of rehearsals.

  I was, as usual, doing my homework last minute and he came up to me and tried to make conversation. I blew him off, stating that this spanish verbs weren’t going to conjugate themselves. After the show though we started talking and I found out that he was a grad student at the university, had went to Princeton for undergrad and was insanely witty.

  Now, I am Black, and had never dated a white guy before, let alone a Jewish, white guy. It just never came up. But I really, really liked him. I had been seeing someone for the past few weeks already knew it was heading nowhere.

  So the next day, I called him up and told him that what he had wasn’t going to work anymore and that I would rather be honest with him than do something that would make me feel like a horrible person. To say he took it hard would be an understatement. He acted as though I was breaking off our engagement even though we had only been seeing each other for a month.

  I’m a bitch, I know, but it was the best thing I ever did because almost 3 years later, we are still together. I guess I can just say I adore him. I adore how excited he gets when he gets a new idea. I love the fact that he doesn’t run away screaming, but instead laughs and shakes his head at my more ludicrous ideas. I love the random texts he sends me saying he loves me. I love how I can call him at 3 o’clock in the morning and know he’ll answer and not be angry.

  He is absolutely horrible at multi-tasking but amazing with helping me find my way when I get lost in driving. With everything that has happened in the past year and a half (I had to move back home and we have been long distance for the past 1 1/2 years) he’s had many chances to say it was too hard or that he wanted to move on. But he never has. I’ve never heard him say “I can’t do this right now” or “Just get over it.” He’s always there and always supportive.

  I fly out to see him about 6 days out of the month and the rest of the time we are on Skype everyday.

  Just be optimistic, I guess. You WILL find love, I promise you that. There is no way you cannot. You’re too funny, too sassy and much to pretty to be alone. :-)

• I met my husband at school. I say “met”, I stalked him. He was in the last year and I was in the first. I knew his timetable and which way he walked home… I followed him on school camp to Scotland where we took a day trip to Gretna Green. “Let’s have a fake wedding ceremony to show how it goes down!” the teacher says. “Who would make a good bride and groom?” “Holly and Lee!” shout a giggling gaggle of 6th formers as Lee turns a fetching shade of crimson and I stand wide eyed and speechless. Long story short, we get a photo and a certificate, he moves away to University and I lie in bed and cry for three weeks. Cut to 8 years later, and an email pings up from Friends Reunited. “Remember me?”. And then 4 years later we got married……… Sigh.

  • Wow! Talk about meant to be. That’s another inspiring story. (sigh…)

    • Aw, thanks… It just goes to show if you set your heart on something…. ;-)

  • As someone who reads historical romance novels as a guilty pleasure, this story knocks my socks off.

• Do you go to church? If you want to meet the kind of person that goes to church, then you need to go to church.

  If you want to meet the kind of person that loves animals, volunteer at a shelter. Even if you don’t meet other people that volunteer there, you might meet some of the people who donate.

  My dad always told me, if thats the kind of person you want to be with, then thats the kind of person you need to be. I wanted to be with someone who would run and workout with me, so I ran track and cross country.

• My husband met me on Myspace. After a 3 year long relationship had ended I made 3 more very bad relationship decisions resulting in getting pregnant at 17 years old. I finished high school early and spent most of my free time online after I had my daughter. Four months later I got a simple “Hello” message from some Army guy at the base in a town about 40 miles from where I lived. He had a really plain profile but he seemed really nice so I replied back even though I always thought I was too good for ‘military guys’. He said his computer was really slow so he asked for my number (which I wasn’t sure about, you never know on the internet!!). The first phone call lasted about 2 hours or more. For about 6 months we spoke daily on the phone (sometimes two or three times for many hours), I had three more boyfriends in that time so we mostly spoke as friends without admitting that we liked each other. Due to our work scheduling we had met once back when we first started talking, but after my 19th birthday I finally was given a night off that he had off also so he said he had to take me out. I was nervous as he is 10 years older than I am but I knew I just had to go. We’ve been together two years and two months since that night and married with another daughter! I love him more than I ever thought I could love anyone and I could never be with anyone else. Beet I would definately have to say that sometimes giving someone a chance that you originally never would have isn’t always a bad thing.

• I met my boyfriend on the first day of pre-season training for the college marching band we were both in. I was a freshman and he was a drum major (that’s the guy who conducts, for those of you who don’t know), so I thought he was out of my league. I hardly knew him, but it didn’t take long before I established a pretty strong crush on him. One day, I asked him to go to one of the homecoming events with me. We went, and we had a great time- we always had something to talk about. He was four years older than me, so I was surprised to find out how much we had in common! After that, we went to a friend’s birthday party at her lake house, then we went to a park to watch the meteor shower that was going on that night. We talked for hours, and he kissed me under the stars. Around 4 AM, we went back to his apartment and watched “The Lion King” and stayed up until 8:30 in the morning, when he brought me back to my place like a perfect gentleman. The whole night was so unexpected and so innocent- I really took a chance on him, and I was so lucky that he turned out to be such a nice guy. We’ve been together for two and a half years now and it’s amazing. :)

• I met mine when I started reading celebrity gossip I don’t care about just because I appreciated the author’s biting wit & the more I got to know her as as a person the more I got to know & like her. Tale as old as time?

• My boyfriend was actually my best friends’ very first boyfriend,when she and I were 14.They dated for 2 years before she dumped him for her current boyfriend (they’ve now been together for 10 years).

  After not seeing him again for about 6 years,he moved back to our town,and strangely enough started flirting with me.He is friends with my sister,and she told me to go for it,but I refused,since he was my bestie’s ex,and the last guy I would have ever gone for.

  One drunken night,we hooked up,and continued hooking up (semi-secretly) for a year,and finally we just had to admit to each other that this was much more than just ‘friends with benefits’,and we’ve been a couple ever since.

  He,my best friend,her boyfriend and I are now the best of friends,after we all straightened out our issues with each other.Strange how life works out sometimes.

• I had the hugest crush on this guy who played football for my university. football players were, of course, gods, and I was on the track team but no where near star status. I felt so creepy because we had a class together and I’d always stare, and I’d turn all red whenever I saw him in the athletics center.
  A close friend was dating his roommate so I told her to hook me up, but it didn’t really happen. 6 months later, she was having a party and were, for the first time, were both there. We were literally shoved together by two of our friends and introduced. We hung out the whole night and started dating about a month later.
  I eventually told him all the creepy things I did before he knew me, like the one time he sat by me in class (I texted my friend about it then kept looking at his crossword puzzle answers) and he said he thought it was cute, and definitely noticed I’d blush every time I saw him.
  and we’ve been together for about a year, even though I’ve switched schools and we’re 3 hours and a time zone away
  moral of the story: some guys like creepy girls

  • Heheh, this made me giggle.

• I were introduced by a mutual friend. Unfortunately, the introduction took place at this horrible dive bar that used to be a country dancing bar in the mid-90’s because the mutual friend had won a free half-barrel, so she lured us with the promise of free beer. I had consumed 3 martinis by the time we got to the bar and spent most of the evening extolling the virtues of Miller High Life, the champagne of bottled beers. And he asked for my number anyway. Go figure.

• mine started out as a short term fling. we’d been friends for years and he had a girlfriend the whole time who hated me. once they broke up, he called me (less than two weeks later!) to ask me out. he said he had wanted to be friends the whole time but felt he couldn’t because of his girlfriend.

  then he was going to move to china for a year with his band, and so we decided that spending time with each other and fooling around was all we should do. then the move didn’t happen and we found ourselves in a situation where we could finally say all the things we’d secretly been wanting to say to each other. three years later we’re engaged and getting married next year! he is my heart and I love him so.

• there is no such thing as love love is words i am from uk and i beleive you cant get the 1 u love its bull shit love doesnt exit for me for people it might do people just say there is such thing as love love is time pass and full of —-