I don’t get it! I just don’t understand what happened!
On December 9 Sinéad O’Connor was happily blogging about oral sex with her brand-new husband. Two days later, she reversed course, blogging that her husband needs his privacy, as he is “a therapist working with very young adolescents” who “must maintain a low profile.”
Now, O’Connor writes, she wants to break the news herself, before anybody else can report it: she’s getting a divorce. I can’t imagine where things went wrong.
Most outlets are saying that the split occurred just 18 days after her wedding. According to the Daily Mail’s math, the marriage really only lasted 16 days, with the relationship ending on Christmas Eve. But as O’Connor tells it—um, on her website, for all the world to see—wedded bliss only lasted three hours. (“The marriage was kyboshed,” she writes, insinuating that there was some marijuana-fueled squabble very soon after the vows were exchanged.)
“He has been terribly unhappy,” O’Connor writes of her future former husband, “and I have therefore ended the marriage. I think he is too nice to do so. And too nice to trap.”
Also: “Publicity over all this could jeopardise his job. Please, don’t do that to him. …He is a private person.” Oh, Sinéad. I don’t think this marriage was ever really in the cards, you dope.
By all accounts, it wasn’t a conventional wedding in the first place: the bride wore pink, and she delivered her vows from the back seat of a pink Cadillac.
This was O’Connor’s fourth marriage.
Didn’t they know each others for like 2 week before the wedding?
She was on Oprah once, talking about being bi-polar… This could maybe/ probably have been a manic episode.
Still like her. Her amazing voice, advocacy for abused kids, of which she was one herself… anti-Catholic stance regarding its no birth control policy… And her basic sweetness, although i guess her exes would beg to differ.
Yeah. I hate to even suggest it, but all of this behavior screams “bipolar.” Even in her blog, when she apologizes for not being a “regular” woman…? Argh. People, letting yourself go unmedicated doesn’t make you more “creative” and “fun”; rather, it makes your marriages two weeks long.
But remember, it’s them gayz who are ruining the institution of marriage.
Yeah, uh-huh.
Are you for real? I hope you’re just drunk…
Sarcastic, actually. I suppose I should have added the bit at the end.
Oh, dopey me, but I would have expected a therapist to have had a clearer picture of what he was getting into.
Reminds me of a joke:
How many therapists does it take to change a lightbulb?
Only one…
…but the lightbulb has to WANT to change.
Ha! Genius.
I understand the husband’s error, though. This is kinda depressing to say, but a bipolar person who thinks she is in love can be very convincing. Sure, a pro therapist ought to be able to recognize it when he sees it, but when love seems real, boy is it easy to overlook all those red flags. I guess that’s true of any circumstance, though.
This isn’t a knock against the bipolar among us, no—everyone deserves love—but it is so wholly irresponsible to go into that sort of commitment hypomanic and kooky. Like, the guy probably didn’t even plan to divorce her.
Jen,
I always enjoy what you write; you’re intelligent, compassionate, and witty without being crass.
I’m still scratching my head over this one. Sinead is a rather open person without a functioning edit button, God love her. If she’s struggling, she says so. If she’s lonely and horney for some hot-monkey sex, she says that, too…unabashedly in public forums.
With jaw-dropping detail.
At what point was it decided that she would be detrimental to his career with children?
We are all on our own paths, but I can’t help but wonder if he has some serious issues he still needs to work on. I’ve got plenty of my own. Sigh.